wow just wow. most shallow girl on the net.

armchair_warrior

I hope she one day meets some guy like herself.

the guy she was describing sounds more like a modest guy than a liar and she's the drunk.

http://www.gizmodo.com.au/2011/08/my-okcupid-affair-with-a-world-champion-magic-the-gathering-player

This story sounds mean. It’s about a girl judging a boy because he’s a nerd (like so many of us!) that she met on OkCupid. But that’s the point: Judging people on shallow stuff is human nature, and the magic and absurdity of online dating is how immediately and directly it throws that into relief. One person’s Magic is another person’s fingernail biting, and no profile in the world is deep enough to account for that.

Australian Editor’s Note: We disagree with the US author of this post, more: Alyssa Bereznak Just Reminded Us That Women Can Be Predators Online Too

Earlier this month, I came home drunk and made an OKCupid profile. What the hell, I thought. I’m busy, I’m single, and everybody’s doing it. Sure, I’d heard horror stories, but what was the worst that could happen?

Two weeks into my online dating experiment, OKCupid had broken me down. It was like the online equivalent to hanging out alone in a dark, date-rapey bar. Every time I signed on, I was hit by a barrage of creepy messages. “Dem gurl u so foine, iwud lik veru much for me nd u to be marry n procreate.” Or “your legs do look strong.” So when I saw an IM from a guy saying, “You should go out with me ” I was relieved. He seemed normal. I gave him my name. “Google away,” I said. Then dinner was ready, and I signed off without remembering to do the same.

We met for a drink later that week. He was thin and tall, dressed in a hedge fund uniform with pale skin and pierced ears. We started talking about normal stuff — family, work, college. I told him my brother was a gamer. And then he casually mentioned that he played Magic: The Gathering when he was younger.

“Actually,” he paused. “I’m the world champion.”

I laughed. Oh that’s a funny joke! I thought. This guy is funny! But the earnest look on his face told me he wasn’t kidding.

I gulped my beer and thought about Magic, that strategic collectible card game involving wizards and spells and other detailed geekery. A long-forgotten fad, like pogs or something. But before I could dig deeper, we had to go. He had bought us tickets for a one-man show based on serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer’s life story. It was not a particularly romantic evening.

The next day I Googled my date and a wealth of information flowed into my browser. A Wikipedia page! Competition videos! Fanboy forums! This guy isn’t just some professional who dabbled in card games at a tender age. He’s widely revered in the game of Magic that he’s been immortalised in his own playing card.

Just like you’re obligated to mention you’re divorced or have a kid in your online profile, shouldn’t someone also be required to disclose any indisputably geeky world championship titles? But maybe it was a long time ago? We met for round two later that week.

At dinner I got straight down to it. Did he still play? “Yes.” Strike one. How often? “I’m preparing for a tournament this weekend.” Strike two. Who did he hang out with? “I’ve met all my best friends through Magic.” Strike three. I smiled and nodded and listened. Eventually I even felt a little bit bad that I didn’t know shit about the game. Here was a guy who had dedicated a good chunk of his life to mastering Magic, on a date with a girl who can barely play Solitaire. This is what happens, I thought, when you lie in your online profile. I was lured on a date thinking I’d met a normal finance guy, only to realise he was a champion dweeb in hedge funder’s clothing.

I later found out that he infiltrated his way into OKCupid dates with at least two other people I sort of know, including one of my co-workers. Mothers, warn your daughters! This could happen to you. You’ll think you’ve found a normal bearded guy with a job, only to end up sharing goat cheese with a world champion of nerds. Maybe I’m an OKCupid arsehole for calling it that way. Maybe I’m shallow for not being able to see past his world title. But if everyone stopped lying in their profiles, maybe there also wouldn’t be quite as many OKCupid horror stories to tell.

So what did I learn? Google the shit out of your next online date. Like, hardcore. Also, for all you world famous nerds out there: Don’t go after two Gawker Media employees and not expect to have a post written about you. We live for this kind of stuff.

reaction to that post here : http://www.gizmodo.com.au/2011/08/alyssa-bereznak-just-reminded-us-that-women-can-be-predators-online-too/

armchair_warrior

lol check out the comments lol on all the sites, man that girl should change her name afterwards . someone is gonna google her on some future dates . also no wonder she is single!

btw girl nerds are passing the story around the net LOL.

boygabriel

your gender commentary is always enlightening...

...about you.

armchair_warrior

lol @ bg.

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boygabriel

nobody knows gender progressiveness like nerds know gender progressiveness.

whynot_31

"Gender Progressiveness" ??

Is that when through a series of operations, one slowly becomes a different sex?

armchair_warrior

she shouldn't of mess with the largest tribe on the net. male nerds .

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tateinbk

Do you really think it's still true that male nerds are the largest tribe on the net? I'm inclined to think it's more likely teenagers who are avoiding doing homework, or will be in about a week.

And, ok, while she was extra snarky, after giving everyone a shot on on-line dating, it can leave you feeling extra crabby. I would be worried about any guy who has maintained that level of attachment to an activity normally played when younger whether it's Magic cards, beer pong, or any other such thing.

Besides, if Magic was so clearly important to him he should have shown that on his profile, he didn't have to say he was a champion. Then, the girls who like that could have gone with him. With on-line dating you get so used to sorting through lies that leaving out such a major life interest does feel obnoxious. Does it deserve the reaction she gave? In my opinion, no. But why, AW, all the aggression towards her?

boygabriel

whynot_31 said:

"Gender Progressiveness" ??

Is that when through a series of operations, one slowly becomes a different sex?

homeowner

Let this be a lesson to all. Meet your dates the old fashioned way: Pick em' up in bars or get set up by your friends. Internet dating is about as useful as Ebay shopping. For every deal you end up securing, you're gonna have to wade through a bunch of cheap knockoffs.

armchair_warrior

so what someone is good at hobby, its not a crime not to mention your good at something? plus modesty is a trait alot of people are missing.

she failed to mention she is a shallow person on the profile like how he forgot his a magic the gathering player.

she made it seems he was hiding it. there is nothing wrong with hobbies that some people don't like and thinks people should fit into category, oh they are at that age, they should stop playing magic or games etc...

people have hobbies they could be fun to some and others feel weird about them. I known people who thinks others are weird simply because oh those things they should be only done at a certain age. I find that ridiculous. you stop having fun at a certain age? lol

no aggression at all. just simply the facts. she shouldn't of mention him. we all know who he is by simply googling the champ of magic gathering cards etc... now people can google her.

she humiliated him, so its all fair when nerds are passing the story around the net.

revenge of the nerds!

armchair_warrior

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/jz3u7/iama_jon_finkel_ask_me_anythin.../

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stacey

That is hysterical!!! And he told her on the first date he was the champion. I work in a building with mostly brokers and hedge fund types and I would much rather hang out with the gamers!

armchair_warrior

she does live in park slope. so we probably hear from her soon or later.

armchair_warrior

alyssabereznak:

dudes, i don't think it's bad to be a dweeb. i just dont want to date someone i can't relate to. not an attack. more a cautionary tale. 29 Aug

Posted from Twitter

more foot in mouth I see.

tateinbk

Let this be a lesson to all. Meet your dates the old fashioned way: Pick em' up in bars or get set up by your friends. Internet dating is about as useful as Ebay shopping. For every deal you end up securing, you're gonna have to wade through a bunch of cheap knockoffs.

In the end, internet dating was quite worth it for me, however, the amount of crap you have to wade through is insane. People who show up 45 minutes late, guys who use their brother's pictures because "they look so much alike and it's creepy to put your own picture on-line", married guys, guys who have multiple profiles and vastly different pictures, so you end up going out with them again, the on-line stalker variety, people who lie unendingly about what their job is, etc. I became a master at the google person searches.

It's a process that requires frequent breaks so you don't get too sarcastic and nasty to humanity at large. But.... It can work too. As long as you treat it as a nod to the fact that you'll be in a certain bar at a certain time, as will another person and you go from there pretending you're just picking each other up randomly.

tateinbk

I don't understand why the woman went out with him again if she was so bothered by the Magic part of his life.

The modesty issue seems misplaced when you consider yes, he didn't mention liking to play on his profile but then he volunteered that he was a champion on the first date.

I'm not totally sure why this was a date she chose to write about. She must have not gone on many OkCupid dates in general because after a little while they all fade away and this type of date will fade into the mass of other dates full of misunderstandings.

armchair_warrior

She did it most likely for the internet traffic for the site, nerd baiting and it worked LOL.

that she gets props for.

armchair_warrior

crud lol, um mods edit the original copy and paste into half at least. i forgotten to shorten it out. it shouldn't be a full copy of the article. copy rights etc...

homeowner

armchair_warrior said:

so what someone is good at hobby, its not a crime not to mention your good at something? plus modesty is a trait alot of people are missing.

she failed to mention she is a shallow person on the profile like how he forgot his a magic the gathering player.

she made it seems he was hiding it. there is nothing wrong with hobbies that some people don't like and thinks people should fit into category, oh they are at that age, they should stop playing magic or games etc...

people have hobbies they could be fun to some and others feel weird about them. I known people who thinks others are weird simply because oh those things they should be only done at a certain age. I find that ridiculous. you stop having fun at a certain age? lol

no aggression at all. just simply the facts. she shouldn't of mention him. we all know who he is by simply googling the champ of magic gathering cards etc... now people can google her.

she humiliated him, so its all fair when nerds are passing the story around the net.

revenge of the nerds!

I was talking about him. She had the option of writing this piece in a manner which would have maintained his anonymity. By failing to do so, she's getting what she deserves.

armchair_warrior

now in hindsight, she is good!!! i mean she went out and got attention for herself and site probably the original point of post .

she earns some candy!!(i don't like beer or alcohol )