Roommate Situation...

kcyclub1477

Basically I have been living with a former co-worker (he was a current coworker at the time of move-in) since October 2005. Everything was fine with the exception of his girlfriend being here (when we are at work, I hate that it's not her apartment) and some other minor things. Well in September of last year we had a major falling out over an incident when out with friends and I have not and nor do I want to said anymore than 10 words to him total in the past 7-8 months. At the time of said incident I was ready to ask him to go and live somewhere else because I was that pissed. But I calmed down and said to myself I will take the time and save up money so I can live by myself. Well the time has come and I want him to go. I am way too uncomfortable in a place that I live and truth be told I dont like living with someone I neither like, talk to or respect.
Ok heres the background facts. We live in my aunts building and are getting a huge brake on the rent. When we moved in no lease was signed since it is my aunts building. I want him out. I am not trying to be a prick so I was going to give him until August 31st to vacate. I know that my aunt would have my back in this and would help me in anyway with getting him out. Which I think is plenty of time to vacate. I would like to know if he has the right to say no and not want to leave and also if anyone had any ideas or ways for me to tell him to leave without soundind confrontational about things. I am 27 years old and I just want to live by myself.

Thank you in advance for your help.

stella

Be annoying. Make him WANT to leave.

brooklynpotter

ok, just tell the guy has has to leave by the end of the month. that's plenty of time and if he asks for more, give him two more weeks. don't step on eggshells, i really believe most people will leave if they are firmly asked to

armchair_warrior

just talk to him and ask him to leave. most people would.

izisharp

tell him you found bedbugs in your room. He'll be out like shout.

alafairnadia

yeah, I'd be up front about this. corner him and tell him to get out. if he whines or says he can't afford it, tell him tough luck. maybe, if it's obvious to you he is looking for a place but having trouble, give him another few weeks. this time of year, though, he should have NO trouble finding a new roommate situation - college kids area all heading home for the summer. ppl are desperate to fill vacant rooms.

doublediamond

If you're looking for a way to have a non-confrontational conversation, I would ask him when he's not busy if he's free to talk. I would probably say something like, "hey, do you have any time tomorrow to talk, like around 6pm?"

Sit down with him and tell him that things haven't been working out with the two of you being roommates and that you decided to live alone. You'd like to make his last day June 31st. Ask him if he feels that's enough time and if he says it's not, offer him until the 15th of July. You want to give him at least 30 days notice to vacate.

Yes, he can refuse. Someone on this board recently discussed this. You can do a search. You can also check on www.tenant.net.

pensodyssey

Tell him Soda is relocating in the first floor of your building.
Don't LOCK YOU DOORS.
Masturbate with th curtains open.

Jeez, there must be fifty ways roust your roomie.

armchair_warrior

pensodyssey wrote: Tell him Soda is relocating in the first floor of your building.
Don't LOCK YOU DOORS.
Masturbate with th curtains open.

Jeez, there must be fifty ways roust your roomie.

man is a genius!

start talking to yourself out loud!
leave toilet unflushed.

bojolais

You need to treat this professionally because it could turn legal if he doesn't want to leave. If the two of you don't speak, send him a certified letter that says he has 30 days (I would give him a little more time than that just in case he doesn't get the letter in time etc) to vacate. But that is the legal time frame, I believe, if there is no lease. Then if he doesn't leave, begin eviction proceedings. These things can get ugly fast.

whatchuwant

Since your aunt owns the place, she may need to do it. There are no laws to kicking out a roomie, though. Trust me, I know- I've been doing this for ten years. I've kicked out TONS of 'em. They don't have a leg to stand on. The only thing you might worry about, if he's not cool, is him fucking up your shit (destroying property). Then I can understand the kid gloves.
But generally, my attitude is fuck 'em. Tell him your aunt wants to have just all family living there. Pass the buck, if you have to.

brooklynpotter

ok, really, how many people stay in apartments when their roommate is kicking them out? think about it? it's not going to get legal, it's just going to be uncomfortable. get it over with and you're done

kcyclub1477

Subject: He's Gone!

Thank you to everyne who responded in this thread regarding the situation with my roommaate. Said roomate moved today with no problems. Although when I first told him to leave about a montha and a half ago he tried to bait me into a fight, but I didnt take the bait. He left some things behind and I dont know if he plans on coming back. So I set them outside the apartment door with a note and I will change the locks tomorrow. I hope I am not breaking any lawas by doing that. But anyway thank you for the advice everyone.

armchair_warrior

if you change locks you have to give copies of the keys to landlord. just in case they need to get in there in emergencies to turn off gas or water leaks etc...

daver

armchair_warrior wrote: if you change locks you have to give copies of the keys to landlord. just in case they need to get in there in emergencies to turn off gas or water leaks etc...

It is his Aunt's building...

kcyclub1477

Yea its my aunts building..I meant breaking the law in terms of my former roommate trying to get back in. I assumed whatever he left behind he must not have wanted so I boxed it uo and put it outside the door on the floor we live on with a note.

doublediamond

glad it worked out for you.

poppy13

No lease, no law to break.

paraderest

Just leave a big hot steamer on the kitchen counter every morning.

flailey

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karl the druid

in the future, if your unwanted roommate is a hippie, a bar of soap over the doorway is a great deterrent

this also works for deer and feral pigs

thecolonel

Karl the Druid wrote: in the future, if your unwanted roommate is a hippie, a bar of soap over the doorway is a great deterrent

this also works for deer and feral pigs

Be a prick. Kick him out. :twisted:

drano

Start wearing patchouli oil. It's about the most anti-social thing a person can do short of assault and will surely drive the chump out with his nose between his legs.