meeting young singles?

brooklynleather

so i am twenty something. queer (bisexual, if you must) and more creative professional than young business professional. but in any case, where does a single gal like myself go around these parts to meet new (and single) people? seems like soda is a nice crowd, but i haven't been gutsy enough to go solo. plus, i'm not a big booze hound. any advice?

anotherdayinbkln

nerve.com

brooklynleather

i would "lol" to that but you might be right.

also, does montgomery exist and if so where is that?

nodirection

I'm queer, not single though. i'm a creative person as well. the only place for ladies is the metropolitan on wed nite in williamsburg. other options are caddyshack and the occasional queer dance party. are you new here?

mateus

Bar Sepia is Bi-friendly for all heteroflexible types...not necessarily a singles spot but I have spotted a single lesbian or two in there on more than one occassion.

CattyShack is supposed to be a super-cool place to go dancing.

sterling2000

Subject: Re: meeting young singles?

brooklynleather wrote: so i am twenty something. queer (bisexual, if you must) and more creative professional than young business professional. but in any case, where does a single gal like myself go around these parts to meet new (and single) people? seems like soda is a nice crowd, but i haven't been gutsy enough to go solo. plus, i'm not a big booze hound. any advice?

New York City (you've come to the right place)

anotherdayinbkln

brooklynleather wrote: i would "lol" to that but you might be right.

also, does montgomery exist and if so where is that?

no man, out of "personals" sites, nerve's sweeps the whole spectrum of "coolness" (i can't think of a better word for it). You have the sexy types who read nerve, the same service is used on Onion.com's, and I think on Salon.com or something, so you get the hip and brainy too. one subscription gets you all of those.. or something.
so i've heard.

anotherdayinbkln

brooklynleather wrote:
also, does montgomery exist and if so where is that?

Oh oh, Montgomery is between Eastern Pkwy and Empire blvd.

map: http://maps.google.com/maps?f=q&hl=en&q=Washington+Ave+and+Montgomery,+Brooklyn,+NY+11225&ie=UTF8&z=15&ll=40.667749,-73.961635&spn=0.015136,0.043259&om=1&iwloc=addr

jarvis

IMHO:
Nerve is definitely worth a shot for dates (full disclosure: my brother just married the only woman he met on the site). Sepia is good in that it's probably the most laid-back and friendly spot in the neighborhood. Cattyshack is fun for dancing and hanging out on the deck - also a perfect place to go on Sunday nights to heckle The L-Word. Ripple has great music if you're into live dj's.

Also, not to be a total fruitcake but I always met a lot of new people when I was a member of the co-op. Queer folks especially.

michaelkeys

jarvis wrote: IMHO:
Nerve is definitely worth a shot for dates (full disclosure: my brother just married the only woman he met on the site).

Nerve.com is as good/bad as meeting people in bars: for every cool person there's an army of flakes to contend with. Load up on the Head & Shoulders and proceed with caution.

doctorj

MichaelKeys wrote:
Nerve.com is as good/bad as meeting people in bars: for every cool person there's an army of flakes to contend with. Load up on the Head & Shoulders and proceed with caution.

Sure. Plusses and minusses. For example, you're more likely to find a serious drinker or someone with an alcohol problem in a bar, and an abstemious type online. Online you've got time to check background and education, estimate price/prospective earnings ratios, etc.; in a bar you can better screen out people with manifestly unpleasant social or physical characteristics or behaviors, negative charisma. And so on.

michaelkeys

doctorj wrote: [quote=MichaelKeys]
Nerve.com is as good/bad as meeting people in bars: for every cool person there's an army of flakes to contend with. Load up on the Head & Shoulders and proceed with caution.

Online you've got time to check background and education, estimate price/prospective earnings ratios, etc.; in a bar you can better screen out people with manifestly unpleasant social or physical characteristics or behaviors, negative charisma. And so on.
Agreed. That alternative was what attracted me to online dating in the first place. But for whatever reason my recent experience with both has been exactly the same: an endless supply of first dates; or the occasional, casual sexual hookup. Which means I'm back to the proverbial square one. Anyway...

alafairnadia

online: people focused on marriage or a very specific sort of fetishistic hookup.

bars: people focused on a one night stand or a really fucked up relationship.

solution: stop dating. oogle hot lesbians in the marais. chat up hot glasgowians in pubs. smile at everyone who talks to you - anywhere. go home alone. adopt.

oh wait, sorry, that's just me.

michaelkeys

alafairnadia wrote: online: people focused on marriage or a very specific sort of fetishistic hookup.

bars: people focused on a one night stand or a really fucked up relationship.

solution: stop dating. oogle hot lesbians in the marais. chat up hot glasgowians in pubs. smile at everyone who talks to you - anywhere. go home alone. adopt.

oh wait, sorry, that's just me.

Yikes!

alafairnadia

MichaelKeys wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]online: people focused on marriage or a very specific sort of fetishistic hookup.

bars: people focused on a one night stand or a really fucked up relationship.

solution: stop dating. oogle hot lesbians in the marais. chat up hot glasgowians in pubs. smile at everyone who talks to you - anywhere. go home alone. adopt.

oh wait, sorry, that's just me.

Yikes!

okay, I walked into that one. the "solution" person is me. not the freakshows online or in bars. not that I"m not a freakshow.

michaelkeys

alafairnadia wrote: [quote=MichaelKeys][quote=alafairnadia]online: people focused on marriage or a very specific sort of fetishistic hookup.

bars: people focused on a one night stand or a really fucked up relationship.

solution: stop dating. oogle hot lesbians in the marais. chat up hot glasgowians in pubs. smile at everyone who talks to you - anywhere. go home alone. adopt.

oh wait, sorry, that's just me.

Yikes!

okay, I walked into that one. the "solution" person is me. not the freakshows online or in bars. not that I"m not a freakshow.
I am doomed.

withachaser

queer girl here, weighing in. cattyshack L-Word night is fun. nice crowd. and it seems a lot of folks turn out who are not "local," which has its plusses and minuses. the bar at beast on some nights can be teaming with women "on the team" and chocolate monkey does some homo events. the gym, maybe?

i've done WAY more than my share on nerve and planet out. meeting people online: yeah, you can screen for 'interesting/compatible' and bright, but not for crazy and unattractive. meeting people en vivo, the ones that make you go 'hubba-hubba' must then be screened for mental illness and intellectual challenge, which is harder (and less of a priority, it seems) once alcohol is involved. i'm starting to favor the latter, 'cause at least the process can be fun.

altho, truthfully, i've been taking alafairnadia's approach lately. misanthropy can be very sexy. and you get a lot of reading done. :?