I'm bringing the specter of race to park slope.
Subject: I'm bringing the specter of race to park slope.
should i give this arrogant bastard in ps the finger or just give him dirty looks for now on.during the winter while my dad and i were shoving the snow, in the front yard. he gave my father 5 bucks. who barely could speak english.
to shovel his snow too, my father was too polite to tell him to fuck off.
so we just shovel his front yard and didn't want to start out something stupid with this jerk off.
last week my parents didnt tell me but i over heard the conversation with one of their friends.
how this same jackass rush into my building tell them to be quiet while moving in a table. that they were causing them too much "noise", it bang the basement walls a few times, but not disturbing anyone.
some how this arrogant jerk, thinks he is the master lording over us. my parents apologize to him. if i have known i would of gone to tell him to fuck off.
there is even more back ground story to this jerk off, but too long to write up.
but now this guy is pissing me off.
i had a similar experience with a "lady" once she thought i was the help too. even longer story. i told that "lady" off.
the reason i mention race, park slope is supposedly a liberal, diverse place. but some of the biggest racist i meet are liberals.
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Subject: rascists
yes, liberals can certainly be racists and be completely tolerant until they are personally confronted. Yet this guy may just be cheap. Perhaps try extablishing a price before shoveling. -
lol i pay the locale boys like 20 bucks each and thats the standard for a long time.
plus he didn't really say anything to my dad, but only pointed at the snow. -
What is your parents' relationship to this guy? Are they neighbors renting apartments in the same building?
Will this guy be living near you or your parents for decades or months?
How old is your dad? If your dad is an older man (a senior), tell the guy that you are concerned about your dad's back and must limit the amount of shoveling your dad does. This might be a nice way to prevent your dad from shoveling this guy's yard.
The guy you describe does sound like a jerk, but if he is a permanent neighbor, we got to think before we declare war.
I can relate to your anger and frustration over thinking that some one is making assumptions about you based on the way that you look. -
its the new house we brought as a investment property. we were shoveling snow, and my parents moved the garden table into the house.
this guy owns the house next door.
my dad i guess i consider a senior, but is very well built.
I'm thinking choosing the ignore the neighbor dude no matter what. since he would be living there for decades( he brought the house only a few years ago) -
Subject: Re: I'm bringing the specter of race to park slope.
armchair_warrior wrote: during the winter while my dad and i were shoving the snow, in the front yard. he gave my father 5 bucks. who barely could speak english.
i would have stabbed him in one eye for offering only five bucks
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Your parents are too nice and accomodating, but there is really no need for fingers and dirty looks. Forks in eyes are always fun, though.
Seriously, who cares what arrogant prick next door thinks. If he asks them to shovel his snow, they can just say _no_. As far as moving the table in, it isn't like the guy stopped them from moving it in, right? He is just a jerk off, fuck him. No use getting worked up about it, just go about your business and ignore him like you said. -
Subject: Re: I'm bringing the specter of race to park slope.
armchair_warrior wrote: should i give this arrogant bastard in ps the finger or just give him dirty looks for now on.
I agree that some of the biggest racists are liberals but how could you tell that he was a liberal?
during the winter while my dad and i were shoving the snow, in the front yard. he gave my father 5 bucks. who barely could speak english.
to shovel his snow too, my father was too polite to tell him to fuck off.
so we just shovel his front yard and didn't want to start out something stupid with this jerk off.
last week my parents didnt tell me but i over heard the conversation with one of their friends.
how this same jackass rush into my building tell them to be quiet while moving in a table. that they were causing them too much "noise", it bang the basement walls a few times, but not disturbing anyone.
some how this arrogant jerk, thinks he is the master lording over us. my parents apologize to him. if i have known i would of gone to tell him to fuck off.
there is even more back ground story to this jerk off, but too long to write up.
but now this guy is pissing me off.
i had a similar experience with a "lady" once she thought i was the help too. even longer story. i told that "lady" off.
the reason i mention race, park slope is supposedly a liberal, diverse place. but some of the biggest racist i meet are liberals. -
If and when there ever is another snowfall you should shovel the snow from in front of your house to in front of their house. Yes childish and silly and probably illegal too but sounds like proper punishment.
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just ranting, now i feel much better.
talk to jerk before myself. when i first got the place. long story short, i had a dealing with him. he just forgotten, plus when i shave and don't shave and hair cut no hair cut etc.. i look different. -
...Why did your father accept the job in the first place, if they're just neighbors?
Seriously, that'd be like my father raking the lawn at his house, and the neighbor coming to offer to pay him to rake his lawn too. My dad wouldn't have accepted for any amount, he'd be wondering "why the hell aren't you raking your own damn lawn?" -
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a foot rest! i knew i was missing something. -
queencallipygos wrote: ...Why did your father accept the job in the first place, if they're just neighbors?
dude just shoved the 5 bucks into his hands and my father is a simple man. dude then points to his yard. and my father walks over to me and ask me if can i give it back to him etc.. and i'm like dude you should of thrown it into his face!
Seriously, that'd be like my father raking the lawn at his house, and the neighbor coming to offer to pay him to rake his lawn too. My dad wouldn't have accepted for any amount, he'd be wondering "why the hell aren't you raking your own damn lawn?"
but he was like oh, i'm like either you shovel his side or i'll go over and give him a long talk. he was like lets not make trouble with the neighbors. so we both shovel that yard.
you'll find alot of old school asians bending backwards when it comes to native born americans. not causing trouble or stirring the pot.
tons of stuff that happen to us they refused to do anything about it. they are the classic reasons sometimes people would only mug asians and dumb things. -
I'm going to disagree with the prevailing wisdom here. If your folks are going to be visiting the property periodically hereafter, such that this problem might recur if you take no action, then I think you should visit your neighbor and inform him that if he ever again presumes to impose on either of your parents again, you will personally ensure that he will have at least one more orifice thereafter than he had before.
Let him know that while your dad is much too polite to tell him what an asshole he is, you are certainly not! -
booklaw wrote: I'm going to disagree with the prevailing wisdom here. If your folks are going to be visiting the property periodically hereafter, such that this problem might recur if you take no action, then I think you should visit your neighbor and inform him that if he ever again presumes to impose on either of your parents again, you will personally ensure that he will have at least one more orifice thereafter than he had before.
Seconded.
Let him know that while your dad is much too polite to tell him what an asshole he is, you are certainly not! -
I missed how race plays into it. What am I missing? Also, why would your father let someone "shove" money into his hands and then feel obligated to shovel snow. Also - speaking of shoveling snow.... its June. How long has it been since anyone had to shovel snow? This whole thread is weird.
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Jamzer wrote: I missed how race plays into it. What am I missing? Also, why would your father let someone "shove" money into his hands and then feel obligated to shovel snow. Also - speaking of shoveling snow.... its June. How long has it been since anyone had to shovel snow? This whole thread is weird.
The position is that the guy, henceforth referred to as Asshole, assumed his father was hired help due to him not being white.
The situation has been brought back up from the depths of winter due to the second part of the post, the recent incident of Asshole telling his padre to be quite while moving in a table. -
I go with the 3 strikes yer out- next time anything like this happens, give it to him straight up. Third times a charm! Fuck him up.
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Yeah. What she said. With water balloons.
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Your parents did the right thing. This guy, although rude, meant well. Its best to keep in good speaking terms with your next door neighboor. I used to be the same way as you, but realized its much easier to be friendly.
Your father should have just said "no thank you" when offered the $5. -
not offered shoved 5 bucks into his hands and pointed.
it is very different than offered. more like commanded. -
Why complicate things? Just say "We're not hired help, we own the place. See ya."
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I wholeheartedly agree with booklaw, this guy needs to understand that you and your family are not their servants. And for anyone who has never been treated like the "help" you can't really understand how it feels.
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flux wrote: Your parents did the right thing. This guy, although rude, meant well. Its best to keep in good speaking terms with your next door neighboor. I used to be the same way as you, but realized its much easier to be friendly.
While this ordinarily would be true, I believe one can make an exception when the neighbor isn't being neighborly themselves. -
not worth getting upset over...ignore him and do nothing next time...you are only one angrey...while he continues on with...
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armchair_warrior wrote: its the new house we brought as a investment property. we were shoveling snow, and my parents moved the garden table into the house.
Wow. Your neighbor sounds like a total butt wad.
this guy owns the house next door.
my dad i guess i consider a senior, but is very well built.
I'm thinking choosing the ignore the neighbor dude no matter what. since he would be living there for decades( he brought the house only a few years ago)
Yes, if he is not going to die mysteriously any time soon and is going to live near you for decades, it is best to ignore him.
If he bullies your parents he needs a knuckle sandwich, but please refrain from giving him one.
Good luck. Dealing with butthead neighbors stinks. -
armchair_warrior wrote: not offered shoved 5 bucks into his hands and pointed.
What a super sonic ASSHOLE.
it is very different than offered. more like commanded. -
armchair_warrior wrote: [quote=queencallipygos]...Why did your father accept the job in the first place, if they're just neighbors?
dude just shoved the 5 bucks into his hands and my father is a simple man. dude then points to his yard. and my father walks over to me and ask me if can i give it back to him etc.. and i'm like dude you should of thrown it into his face!
Seriously, that'd be like my father raking the lawn at his house, and the neighbor coming to offer to pay him to rake his lawn too. My dad wouldn't have accepted for any amount, he'd be wondering "why the hell aren't you raking your own damn lawn?"
This reminds me of an event I went to drink and dance with friends. I was standing near the entrance and a lady threw her fur coat at me mistaking me for a coat check clerk. It was fast and offensive. I passed it back to her, but wish now that I played along and sold it on ebay. -
in the past i got mistaken for help way too many times.
now days i'm badly dress and unshaven, hard to be mistaken for help.
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