Scary neighbor...police or landlord?
I'm a registered user on here but I made a guest profile bc some of you know the building I live in and I dont want to escalate this worse than it already is...
long story REALLY short:
There’s previous history with this neighbor of ours- he practices his bass/guitar/keyboard for HOURS a day (like, 5 or 6 hours every day) and when asked to turn it down he basically told us to eff off and he dint have to turn it down or off. We started off leaving notes and then finally confronted him and that was our result. Additionally, he’s been storing stuff in the hallway in opposite our door for like 6 months- ugly junk like old fans, a rusty toaster oven, boxes of stuff, lamps etc. My boyfriend asked him to move it and he said “he’d look into it.” This was about 1.5 months ago and, although the stuff changes, it never disappears. So this weekend we got into an altercation with him which started with him banging on our door, us not answering and him attempting to enter our apartment. The door was unlocked (stupid) but we have loft stairs that come down in front of the door so he was only able to open it about 5 or 6 inches. By the time we woke up and noticed, he was literally abou halfway into our apartment, pushing on the door forcefully trying to break whatever was behind it. My boyfriend went downstairs, there was some yelling, the threat of cops being called etc. I would imagine he was scared by my much larger, very angry boyfriend because he "stormed" off and left the building.
So now I'm home alone and a few minutes ago there was a noise that sounded like him punching/hitting our door and then his door closing immediately thereafter. It was enough to actually shake the floor. I'm home alone and am becoming a little nervous about the fact that A) he basically tried to break into our apartment and
he's attacking the door. I don't know if he knows that someone is home... but I need to go to the store and I'm kind of uneasy about even leaving the apartment until my boyfriend comes home.
1) am I over-reacting by being freaked out by this?
2) Is this a job for the landlord or the cops?
3) Are we totally nuts to not want him to be piling his junk in the hallway? When confronted hes acting like we're way out of line for asking him to move it.
long story REALLY short:
There’s previous history with this neighbor of ours- he practices his bass/guitar/keyboard for HOURS a day (like, 5 or 6 hours every day) and when asked to turn it down he basically told us to eff off and he dint have to turn it down or off. We started off leaving notes and then finally confronted him and that was our result. Additionally, he’s been storing stuff in the hallway in opposite our door for like 6 months- ugly junk like old fans, a rusty toaster oven, boxes of stuff, lamps etc. My boyfriend asked him to move it and he said “he’d look into it.” This was about 1.5 months ago and, although the stuff changes, it never disappears. So this weekend we got into an altercation with him which started with him banging on our door, us not answering and him attempting to enter our apartment. The door was unlocked (stupid) but we have loft stairs that come down in front of the door so he was only able to open it about 5 or 6 inches. By the time we woke up and noticed, he was literally abou halfway into our apartment, pushing on the door forcefully trying to break whatever was behind it. My boyfriend went downstairs, there was some yelling, the threat of cops being called etc. I would imagine he was scared by my much larger, very angry boyfriend because he "stormed" off and left the building.
So now I'm home alone and a few minutes ago there was a noise that sounded like him punching/hitting our door and then his door closing immediately thereafter. It was enough to actually shake the floor. I'm home alone and am becoming a little nervous about the fact that A) he basically tried to break into our apartment and
he's attacking the door. I don't know if he knows that someone is home... but I need to go to the store and I'm kind of uneasy about even leaving the apartment until my boyfriend comes home.1) am I over-reacting by being freaked out by this?
2) Is this a job for the landlord or the cops?
3) Are we totally nuts to not want him to be piling his junk in the hallway? When confronted hes acting like we're way out of line for asking him to move it.
Comments
-
cops.
now. -
Call the cops! I hope you have already.
The stuff in the hallway is a matter for the landlord, but his attempted breakin of your apartment, and banging on your door warrents the cops. Why didn't you call them before? -
he's in his apt now, I can hear his stupid guitar playing. I don't know, he just seems unstable to me. The reason he was banging on our door was because some of his stuff disappeared from the hallway and we had previously threatened to throw it away if he didnt move it, so he assumed it was us...which apparently means that, if you dont answer frantic knocking, he can just come into the place and, I dont know, look for it? I mean, what was he going to do if he got in here? and what if I was home alone? shit's scaryish.
-
cops, without any question. They will ask though, if you contacted the landlord. So you might call the landlord first, to let him know you will be calling the cops
-
Call the landlord too. It is their responsibility to put a check on a-hole tenants. Cover all your bases.
-
cops first, and then landlord.
-
You should have called 911 when he tried to force his way into your apartment.
I recommend you call your local Pct. and find out how to obtain an order of protection and be sure to let your landlord know what is going on. -
I guess we didn't call the cops right away mostly because we had just woken up and, to be honest, we were both really hungover from the night before. An at the time it seemed kind of comical (my bf threw a book at him from the loft when we saw him halfway through the door) although now its sort of scary.
-
I hope you already called you boyfriend too
-
katbka wrote: I hope you already called you boyfriend too
yes I did. I don't really know why, i don't need him to rush home from work over a door slap, but I thought he should know. -
definitely call your landlord... and the cops. Let your boyfriend know what's going on.
Do not answer your door unless you know its the cops.
And if he starts pounding again... i dunno if you could figure out a way to tape how loud he is... (maybe if u have a video camera or from your cell phone)...
I read through this quickly... guest, but you didn't touch his stuff that was in the hallway right? It was just went missing? Just in case he tells the cops that he saw you take his stuff in your apartment or something else as ridiculous as that... -
jaha127 wrote: definitely call your landlord... and the cops. Let your boyfriend know what's going on.
no we don't have his stuff.
Do not answer your door unless you know its the cops.
And if he starts pounding again... i dunno if you could figure out a way to tape how loud he is... (maybe if u have a video camera or from your cell phone)...
I read through this quickly... guest, but you didn't touch his stuff that was in the hallway right? It was just went missing? Just in case he tells the cops that he saw you take his stuff in your apartment or something else as ridiculous as that... -
ack , recent post aside
cops landlord boyfriend !
all of above
"i don't need him to rush home from work over a door slap"
this is way uncool, and
while you want to assume the best,
always try to be prepared for the worst
leaving stuff in the hall is LL issue.
suggest you mention your constantly tripping and falling on his crap.
after you call the cops, please -
So have you called the cops yet? Seriously, you need to.
-
I haven't- I'm going to way for my boyfriend to come home because he's the one that was involved yesterday. I didn't technically see him in the apartment (although I heard him pushing on the stairs) so I don't really feel totally comfortable speaking to the cops about it. I noticed some weird looking paint chips and some damage to our door jam on the hall side when I left the apartment earlier- it could have been there for a while and I'm just now noticing, but I'm going to take pictures of that as well. And I'm obviously making sure that door is LOCKED.
-
Not that I'm against calling the cops, I think you should hold out for an actual crime. NOW BEFORE ANYONE BALLS ME OUT:
I had a crazy neighbor who had a crazy son. He drank. He was violent. I called the cops on him when it got so bad....and the minute they left, it got worse! Cops came twice that night, but I absolutely dreaded every time I had to leave my apt. from that point on. I mean, he was thisclose to getting arrested so of course I became enemy #1. He would make nasty comments (subtle threats) under his breath and that scared me more in the long run than the few door banging events.
Month later, I get a phone bill for $800! He tapped my line and called everyone he knew. I think he also called 900 numbers and would go take a shower just to run the bill higher.
Moral of the story- just make sure you have something really good to pin on him. the breaking and entering- you missed the boat on that. Banging on the door? I don't know, I mean, it's scary but...it sucks, sorry!
Mouth shut now :-# -
another option is to have somebody...somebody big and scary...have "a talk" with him.
-
oh, and if you have his full name and an idea at least of his birthdate, run a background check on him. I found out somebody who was bothering me had a police record and telling him that I knew this and that I wouldn't be afraid to make his record longer went a long way in getting him to back off
-
My boyfriend IS that big scary guy
and this just got even more hilarious/scary/weird
he threw poop over our fence. Seriously. And I know it's him because he has the mulch that was stuck to it (which we dont have) and I know it was this afternoon because its sitting all over our lawn furniture that I was eating lunch on.
And theres a big gouge in the door, so he did hit it with something.
This grown man THREW POOP INTO OUR YARD.
311? The poop police? I'm almost laughing at this now.
and how stupid do you have to be to throw it over with a shovel and all the mulch you use. there's no way of getting out of that. -
you need to call the police now. NOW.
-
Your situation can turn real scary real fast, so here are some ideas to keep you safe:
-
sterling2000 wrote: cops.
Yes, yes. Call the police. You don't have to put up with that. No one should.
now.
Flying poop??? What's next? Fire? -
seriously, I would call the police.... now
-
please tell me you called the cops. please.
PM me if you need anything. -
Okay, I'm saying this out of concern, so please keep that in mind as you read this:
QUIT FUCKING AROUND AND CALL THE POLICE.
Then call your landlord.
Please, stop delaying and making excuses for this nutjob. Stuff like this can turn into violence extremely quickly, especially when the victims don't take it seriously and let things continue to escalate. Again:
QUIT FUCKING AROUND AND CALL THE POLICE.
Seriously. Please. -
What she said.
No matter how hungover you were, you really should have called when this guy came into your apartment. Even with the door unlocked, it's his issue. I don't know why you wouldn't have called! CALL! -
This guy is out of control, kind of like someone here yesterday. He's not going to stop harassing you until he has no choice.
-
This is yet another ridiculous "Help me, Internet!" post.
-
Well, Old Time Brooklyn, this IS from a regular user of the board (not going to reveal her identity, but she did let moderators know ahead of time that she was going to post something anonymously). I think she genuinely wants advice, so I'm not going to knock her for asking for it.
I'm actually a bit concerned that we haven't heard from the original poster since yesterday. Please let us know that you're okay, guest1234. And PLEASE call the cops if you haven't already! It doesn't matter that you've waited and that the break-in attempt was a few days ago. You need to start documenting this guy's harassment with the authorities NOW. -
Thank you for the concern. I'm alive and well- we're getting ready to call the cops after lunch and file a report. I left the poo in the backyard and took pictures of both it and the door (which actually has some damage on the inside doorjam)
I didn't mean for this to come off as a stupid question- I guess I was nervous that I was over-reacting or that some of this is "cost of doing biz" in nyc, but honestly after typing this all out (and the addition of the poo throwing) I'm realizing he might be more unstable than we originally thought. A few people have asked me if maybe he's on drugs and I'm not even sure I can say no...it does seem like a highly irrational way to deal with a supposed neighborly conflict. I'll let everyone know how the cop experience goes.
Howdy, Stranger!
Categories
- 40K All Categories
- 27.1K Neighborhoods
- 5.1K Crown Heights/Prospect Lefferts Gardens
- 7.1K Prospect Heights
- 2.3K Fort Greene, Clinton Hill, Bed-Stuy
- 8K Park Slope
- 549 Williamsburg, Greenpoint, Bushwick
- 442 Flatbush/Midwood/Ditmas Park
- 657 BoCoCa (Boerum Hill, Cobble Hill, Carroll Gardens)
- 151 Red Hook
- 104 Gowanus
- 304 Bay Ridge/Bensonhurst
- 130 Coney Island, Brighton Beach, Sheepshead Bay
- 270 Brooklyn Heights, DUMBO and Downtown
- 598 Windsor Terrace / Kensington
- 673 Greenwood Heights and Sunset Park
- 749 Brooklyn and Beyond
- 6.3K Stuff
- 86 Brooklyn Back When
- 1.2K Brooklyn Pets
- 257 Brooklyn Kids
- 241 Brooklyn Eats
- 51 Brooklyn Booze
- 3.6K The Lounge / Random Stuff
- 611 Brooklyn Politics
- 122 Brooklyn Sports and Fitness
- 111 Brooklyn Photos
- 339 Site Issues
- 8 Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
- 6.2K Listings
- 1.1K APARTMENTS and REAL ESTATE
- 1.3K Sales Openings Events
- 2.3K The Classifieds