jewish wedding officiants anyone?

chaplin'smom · August 2008

hi all,

i'm a jewish gal engaged to a non jewish guy and we're at a complete loss as to where to begin to look for someone to marry us.

and in addition i was just informed that a jewish ceremony can't take place on a saturday??!??? is this true????

my gods....

i know a wedding is supposed to be impossible to plan but this is ridiculous!

all recommendations/advice etc is greatly (greatly) appreciated!

many thanks!

booklaw · August 2008

The ceremony can take place after sundown on Saturday.

calm head · August 2008

I was married by a reform rabbi who married my wife's sister to a non-jewish man on a Saturday. He is a nice funny man who, in reference to why he is marrying them on Saturday, answered "It's Sunday somewhere".

I have another jewish friend who married someone who was not Jewish and was married by a Rabbi and a Priest, although I can't remember if it was Sat or Sun. I am almost positive it was a Sat night but not after sundown.

Look for reform Rabbis and if you need, I'll give you the number of the Rabbi that married me (it was almst 7 yrs ago, but it's worth a shot).

Wedding advice......dance and eat!!! and assign a best man or maid of honor to deal with minor headaches the day of.

meganlibrarian · August 2008

I'm a Catholic that married a Jewish guy on a Saturday afternoon.

The reform rabbis were the only ones that would consider marrying us, due to our needing a Saturday afternoon wedding (to please my parents), needing a rabbi to co-officiate with a priest (to please both sets of parents) and to marry a Jew and a Catholic.

The priest couldn't marry us as priests are not allowed to marry people outside of a church, and we were being married outdoors (so neither side felt slighted.) The rabbi led the service and the priest gave a blessing.

I recommend finding a reform rabbi that has already co-officiated with a priest and ask him for his recommendation for amenable priests.

Um, oops. I'm assuming your guy is Catholic. If he's not... er, nevermind on the priest thing. But the general theory holds true: find the rabbi first, as most rabbis tend to have a problem with with either the sabbath thing or the non-Jew thing. If you find one that's cool with both, he should have names of officiants that he's wedded couples with in the past.

Good luck, and congratulations!

sjknoll · August 2008

Are you looking for a local Rabbi? I'm getting married in October and my guy's not jewish either. We are using Rabbi Linda Goodman over at Union Temple on Eastern Parkway. We've only had one meeting with her thus far but really like her. Of course we are solely doing a Jewish ceremony and on a Sunday evening. I don't know if Rabbi Goodman will officiate on a Saturday before sundown, but I can get the name of another Rabbi that does. She married my brother in June before sundown. Feel free to PM me if you have any other wedding related questions. and good luck to you!

veets · August 2008

Hey there are lists on line that you can google up of who will officiate at an inter-faith ceremony.

No kidding... there are Rabbi's... VERY reformed ( FROM WHAT RELIGION i HAVE NO IDEA).. who will marry a cataloupe to a watermelon on Yom Kippur.... they will just charge you more.

sir_eccles · August 2008

Second vote for Rabbi Goodman. She is a lovely rabbi and the people at Union Temple are just so friendly. Although we didn't use their ballroom, it is available for receptions, just bring in your own caterers and they don't care if you keep it kosher.

camaysar · August 2008

Check out, just for the possibilities it offers and knowledge it gives in modern terms, the book "The New Jewish Wedding" by Anita Diamant. Widely available. Mazal Tov!

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