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Grieving loss of my beautiful ol' golden lab — Brooklynian

Grieving loss of my beautiful ol' golden lab

nancynurse
nancynurse
edited November -1 in Brooklyn Pets

Subject: Grieving loss of my beautiful ol' golden lab

Just reaching out to the nabe for some support. Feeling very sad this evening. Hope Vet clinic MD was extraordinary.

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  • whynot_31
    whynot_31
    awe, was he friend with dude? (see avatar on left)
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    I don't think so. Wish she had. thanks
  • anastasia beaverhausen
    anastasia beaverhausen
    I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    thanks. I'm home alone this evening and too sad to make phone calls. It's nice to know I can get support here. BTW, didn't you need a ladder?
  • anastasia beaverhausen
    anastasia beaverhausen
    nancynurse wrote: thanks. I'm home alone this evening and too sad to make phone calls. It's nice to know I can get support here. BTW, didn't you need a ladder?
    Not sure yet. But don't worry about any stupid ladder! Feel free to PM if you just want to chat.
  • urbancowgirl
    urbancowgirl
    Hi, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I lost my girl in February, and I know how hard it is to lose a real companion. Would you like to tell us what happened? When you're ready, adopt a new friend and I promise you'll begin to see characteristics that you loved so much in your lab emerge in your new pup. Dogs really know and adapt to their owner's personality. I also found it super therapeutic to choose a favorite photo and have a painting made of Daisy (http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=cat2_galley_16&listing_id=9408216). Now, every time I see her quirky, fun picture on my wall, I remember all the great moments we had and few of the sad. I really feel for you right now and wish there was something to offer. Just know that you gave her an amazing life as I'm sure you did.
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    Funny, I think I'm better equipped to withstand loss of (certain) people vs. my dog. What does that mean?
  • urbancowgirl
    urbancowgirl
    It means we need a visit from Cesar. I humanize mine, too. But who can help it? Such sweet, crazy animals. They know when to comfort us and when to make us laugh...how many people can do that?
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    I truly appreciate all of your kind words. This is very helpful. I look forward to a time when I will put a photo on my desk and remember her.
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    urban cowgirl, thanks for the link (http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?ref=cat2_galley_16&listing_id=9408216)...I see what you mean. I'm feeling better already. Thanks for spreadin' the luv. I don't know if it helps you, but, whenever I'm a little down these days, I just say in a soft voice...O-B-A-M-A and everything is beautiful. P.S. I do not carry a clinical psychiatric diagnosis.
  • iliveingreenpoint
    iliveingreenpoint
    I am so sorry to hear such sad news. We went through it and it is truly painful. I can relate to the idea of grieving more for your dog than people and I like most people. My sister lost her lab Fatty and she has not been able to get another dog, even though we all tell her she needs to give another dog as a great a life a she gave Fatty. The two of them did everything together. She actually takes off on his birthday every year. We planted a tree in my sister's backyard in his memory. I hope you find something that makes you feel at peace and not as sad as you are feeling.
    I know this may sound silly but The Animal Medical Center in NYC has a support group that we went to a few times and it was for people that lost their pet-whether it was lizard, dog, cat. I am not sure if they still have it but it was a comfort to my sister knowing that people understand the pain you are feeling.
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    Greenpoint, you are very sweet. thanks for sharing your thoughts and your sisters experience. If I find I'm having trouble getting past the sadness I suppose I'd consider a support group. Good to know. Again, thanks to all of you during this difficult time. It really sucks.
  • sweet tea
    sweet tea
    it does really suck. i hope no one in your life acts like it shouldn't suck to lose a pet. it's horribly hard, but i feel a little sorry for the kind of people who think it shouldn't be or isn't hard -- seems like they must not have the kind of relationship with their animals that inspires real grief but is also the most rich and full.

    i'm babbling, but my point is that i'm sorry for your loss and want to say that grief shows you are the right kind of pet owner, even though it's hard at this stage. when my cat died, my mother wrote a song (lyrics only) to her. took me years to be able to read past the first couple lines without breaking down, but i think that's because i really loved her and didn't just think of her as an accessory.

    i bet your dog had a pretty great life.
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    wow, thanks. I really did love that dog. Yes, I probably projected alot of my "stuff" on her. But she seemed to "know". I felt tremendous comfort just having her nearby during some very challenging times in my life. I appreciate your what you're saying. But man is this painful.
  • christinafrombklyn
    christinafrombklyn
    Hi Nancynurse.

    I'm so sad to hear about your loss.. It is terribly painful to lose a pet that we love. My dog is my sweetheart and the thought of losing him makes me well up with tears.
    I had a cat that passed away at 19(I had him from the time I was 4 years old) and I couldn't eat for days... It's so hard and as you can see, many of us know how you feel.
    As cliche as it sounds- time does heal, even though that may seem too distant to see right now. Feel free to pm me as well if you need to talk.

    Hugs,

    Christina
  • nancynurse
    nancynurse
    Hey Christina, thanks very much for reaching out to me. I feel like a wet noodle but I know what you say is true and yes cliche: time does heal.
    This has helped me. Group hug to all!
  • park place mama
    park place mama
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. We had to put our dog down two and a half years ago and it was awful. I remember how terribly empty things felt in the apartment when we came home without him for the first time. I cried for at least 2-3 weeks after every time I mentioned his name or tried to tell people what had happened. In fact, we ended up sending out a big email Obit of sorts to all of our friends because it was so painful when people would see us on the street and ask where the dog was—I would well up with tears! I promise that the sadness will pass and you will soon be able to talk about all of the wonderful silly and or naughty (but still silly) things that your dog did. A new dog to love can really help matters. Feel better!
  • daver
    daver
    Sorry to hear of your loss. Old or young, sick or healthy, expected or sudden, it is such a difficult experience to go through. I sturggled with the loss of my Mastiff for over a year, and finally turned to working with art and sculpture to get through it. Which I suppose isn't entirely true, I feel misted even now. I wish you hope and happiness at the times you had together.

    This is an old poem that many have passed on over the years.
    Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
  • modsquad
    modsquad
    Thanks Daver, that's a nice story. It's been 10 years since my Bull Terrier passed away in my arms. I'll never forget the moment her life rushed through me. The day before she died was the only time in NY that I almost got mugged. I was surrounded by several thieves until I threatened to unleash the dog and wreak medieval havoc on their arses. To this day I have to stop what I'm doing at times like this and grieve for a moment.
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