where is the best place to meet single people?
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alafairnadia wrote: so any good insights on where to meet singles? so far, I've had nothing but lousy luck (or bad taste) in the local toys from soda - they're all either attached (whether they tell you or not) or complete jackasses or both. need new playthings.
Wanna come to the gym with me? I've met a few attractive single guys there. Of course, it would require an act of god for me to change my stripes and all, but they are there.
Seriously, I agree with whoever said a while back to find a group. Theres a brooklyn pool league starting up. meets over at brownstone's on 7th and flatbush. i bet you could meet a few people that way and continue the quest towards inebriation. the kicker... i think they shoot (pun intended) for wednesday nights, so you might have to convince the DH regs to change happy hour night. -
hey anyone wanna start a bowling club :P or like a park thing or something.
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magnus martyr wrote: I heartily second the Soda bash there. I love the place as much as the next person. I am there every tuesday night just cause. But honestly it is a complete date bar. I know people who live in the nether world of brooklyn who still take dates to Soda. Not exactly a swinging singles scene. I even asked one of the bartenders about it and he couldn't give me a good answer. I chalk it up to the damn tables in the front. Regardless I will go there for the beer and the music (when it isn't too loud).
yeah. the place is basically my living room but every guy I meet there is a freakshow of some variety or another. I suffer from "too nice" syndrome (I know you're all shocked) and very rarely tell people to fuck off, which means I get into really odd conversations/situations with these lunatics. there were tons of single guys there on NYE but they all live with their parents in Long Island. oh. and there was that guy who was really workin' it a few weeks ago by asking chicks what their new years resolution was going to be. then he uses his genius NY resolution in an attempt to lure the naive: "my new years resolution is to meet a woman who doesn't have kids". WHOA! good luck, buddy. I got 10 at home. -
alafairnadia wrote: [quote=magnus martyr]I heartily second the Soda bash there. I love the place as much as the next person. I am there every tuesday night just cause. But honestly it is a complete date bar. I know people who live in the nether world of brooklyn who still take dates to Soda. Not exactly a swinging singles scene. I even asked one of the bartenders about it and he couldn't give me a good answer. I chalk it up to the damn tables in the front. Regardless I will go there for the beer and the music (when it isn't too loud).
yeah. the place is basically my living room but every guy I meet there is a freakshow of some variety or another. I suffer from "too nice" syndrome (I know you're all shocked) and very rarely tell people to fuck off, which means I get into really odd conversations/situations with these lunatics. there were tons of single guys there on NYE but they all live with their parents in Long Island. oh. and there was that guy who was really workin' it a few weeks ago by asking chicks what their new years resolution was going to be. then he uses his genius NY resolution in an attempt to lure the naive: "my new years resolution is to meet a woman who doesn't have kids". WHOA! good luck, buddy. I got 10 at home.
if every guy there is nuts. i should bring my crazy friend. when she comes back from a cruise. she is nuts and bounces off every wall possible. i hide her from the public
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jayce wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]so any good insights on where to meet singles? so far, I've had nothing but lousy luck (or bad taste) in the local toys from soda - they're all either attached (whether they tell you or not) or complete jackasses or both. need new playthings.
Wanna come to the gym with me? I've met a few attractive single guys there. Of course, it would require an act of god for me to change my stripes and all, but they are there.
Seriously, I agree with whoever said a while back to find a group. Theres a brooklyn pool league starting up. meets over at brownstone's on 7th and flatbush. i bet you could meet a few people that way and continue the quest towards inebriation. the kicker... i think they shoot (pun intended) for wednesday nights, so you might have to convince the DH regs to change happy hour night.
I should go to the gym. but I tend to avoid exercise people - y'all make me nervous.
I'm planning to check out the new body tonic on flatbush since I'm a confirmed pilates junky, but I'm guessing I'm not going to meet any single straight boys there.
I'm lousy at pool. maybe I could start an air hockey league ... I play that well with soco and diet. -
magnus martyr wrote: I heartily second the Soda bash there. I love the place as much as the next person. I am there every tuesday night just cause. But honestly it is a complete date bar. I know people who live in the nether world of brooklyn who still take dates to Soda. Not exactly a swinging singles scene. I even asked one of the bartenders about it and he couldn't give me a good answer. I chalk it up to the damn tables in the front. Regardless I will go there for the beer and the music (when it isn't too loud).
I think pretty much every bar in the neighborhood minus maybe Freddy's and Mooney's are date bars. To say that there's a disparity between singles and couples in the area is like understatement of the year so far. Soda is practically a shark's paradise. I was there one day waiting for a friend and could literally see them sneaking up in my peripheral vision. Ugh. But, fun with some friends. -
alafairnadia wrote: I should go to the gym. but I tend to avoid exercise people - y'all make me nervous.
dude, you gotta go all ghetto gym. the schmantzy places are the ones with the scary exercise people. I haul up to the Y in PS. they got pilates there. but then they got single guys in the weight room. i know this from trying to impress them my first day there and really hurting myself. ha. (but as for exercise folk making people nervous, even cupcake had to laugh at me walking back from the gym smoking. gym folk aren't so scary)
I'm planning to check out the new body tonic on flatbush since I'm a confirmed pilates junky, but I'm guessing I'm not going to meet any single straight boys there.
I'm lousy at pool. maybe I could start an air hockey league ... I play that well with soco and diet.
the pool league is pushing for beginners. you could learn it and then become a pool shark. -
jayce wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]I should go to the gym. but I tend to avoid exercise people - y'all make me nervous.
dude, you gotta go all ghetto gym. the schmantzy places are the ones with the scary exercise people. I haul up to the Y in PS. they got pilates there. but then they got single guys in the weight room. i know this from trying to impress them my first day there and really hurting myself. ha. (but as for exercise folk making people nervous, even cupcake had to laugh at me walking back from the gym smoking. gym folk aren't so scary)
I'm planning to check out the new body tonic on flatbush since I'm a confirmed pilates junky, but I'm guessing I'm not going to meet any single straight boys there.
I'm lousy at pool. maybe I could start an air hockey league ... I play that well with soco and diet.
the pool league is pushing for beginners. you could learn it and then become a pool shark.
yeah, my pilates gym in the city is not pretty at all - it's really hardcore. but I'm too lazy to make my way to times square on the weekends and I want to work in another workout on saturdays. I have very nice stomach muscles, you just can't see them under my protective outer layer of carneviento fat and mimosa.
becoming a pool shark sounds appealing. I like winning. somehow I think my gleeful crowing will not lead to single boys liking me, though.
I've already convinced the corporate lawyers that are coming to napa next weekend to do a poker tournament. I'm planning to not have to pay for any of my dinners there. land shark. -
alafairnadia wrote:
you could always feign being a beginner for a really long time and have some attractive guy help you line up your shot better. sharking lawyers is like an obligation. you better not pay for a meal.
yeah, my pilates gym in the city is not pretty at all - it's really hardcore. but I'm too lazy to make my way to times square on the weekends and I want to work in another workout on saturdays. I have very nice stomach muscles, you just can't see them under my protective outer layer of carneviento fat and mimosa.
becoming a pool shark sounds appealing. I like winning. somehow I think my gleeful crowing will not lead to single boys liking me, though.
I've already convinced the corporate lawyers that are coming to napa next weekend to do a poker tournament. I'm planning to not have to pay for any of my dinners there. land shark. -
I just joined Park Slope Sports Club. They have pilates classes but while all other classes are included, they are an additional expense.
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jayce wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]
you could always feign being a beginner for a really long time and have some attractive guy help you line up your shot better. sharking lawyers is like an obligation. you better not pay for a meal.
yeah, my pilates gym in the city is not pretty at all - it's really hardcore. but I'm too lazy to make my way to times square on the weekends and I want to work in another workout on saturdays. I have very nice stomach muscles, you just can't see them under my protective outer layer of carneviento fat and mimosa.
becoming a pool shark sounds appealing. I like winning. somehow I think my gleeful crowing will not lead to single boys liking me, though.
I've already convinced the corporate lawyers that are coming to napa next weekend to do a poker tournament. I'm planning to not have to pay for any of my dinners there. land shark.
pool shark it is. -
alafairnadia wrote: becoming a pool shark sounds appealing. I like winning. somehow I think my gleeful crowing will not lead to single boys liking me, though.
I've got one friend that would definitely disagree with that. But, the fact she's like 5'10" and Brazilian also doesn't hurt. -
alafairnadia wrote:
see! i'm smarter than I look. its a situation begging for rampant flirtation. and you can do it oh so sly. i met a cute girl at a pool league. and lord knows i met a number of cute guys too. if i were on the hunt, thats where i'd be.
pool shark it is. -
jayce wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]
see! i'm smarter than I look. its a situation begging for rampant flirtation. and you can do it oh so sly. i met a cute girl at a pool league. and lord knows i met a number of cute guys too. if i were on the hunt, thats where i'd be.
pool shark it is.
and there's no harm in picking up yet another degenerate skill. thanks! -
there is talk of a singles party... hhhmmmm..... winter cuddle buddies lacking?
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received further proof that I only attract the most busted of men:
I was working on a trial in late 2004 in federal court. the judge has permanent guards because he was on the 1993 WTC bombing trial and basically has a giant target on his forehead. so there are US Marshals all over the damn courtroom every day. so this one Marshal keeps keeps grinning at me and waving, and everyone notices, including our named partners, and I get all sorts of shit. he finally works up the nerve sometime in early December of 2004 to ask for my number.
as we talk, I realize that he is Not Bright. which isn't so bad, but then I quickly realize he is Really Not Bright AT ALL. but, as usual, because I'm so nice, I've already given him my number. whatever. he doesn't call. we finish the case and it's over. I forget about him. come across his card sometime in June 2005 and end up throwing it away. I mean, what do I care, right? he called me. TODAY. WTF? over a year later? what kind of logic is that? like, is he that Not Bright that this seemed OK?
anyway, I tell you all this for two reasons:
1. I can always keep the sleaziest/stupidest/weirdest/freakiest guy in a bar entertained while the rest of you ladies meet the normal ones and
2. this guy lives in Jersey, so it's not just the boys at Soda or in P. Heights.
further as to point 1 - I can keep the weirdest guy in a COURTROOM entertained. this rule works beyond bars. have faith. I have that kind of mojo. -
This pretty much calls for the Daily Heights personals section, I think.
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That's a pretty interesting idea. However, in such a small neighborhood, and with everyone knowing, more or less, where you live and hang out, the potential for extreme creepiness is worrisome. (Says the married person.)
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EmilyM wrote: That's a pretty interesting idea. However, in such a small neighborhood, and with everyone knowing, more or less, where you live and hang out, the potential for extreme creepiness is worrisome. (Says the married person.)
EXTREMELY creepy. though, I must say, I wonder about some of my neighbors when I read the CL ads that say they're from PH. not that I haven't done it, but still, there are some really wacky characters out there. what if they're the new guy in my buidling? MEEP! :shock: :shock: :shock: -
alafairnadia wrote: though, I must say, I wonder about some of my neighbors when I read the CL ads that say they're from PH. not that I haven't done it, but still, there are some really wacky characters out there. what if they're the new guy in my buidling? MEEP! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Well, I've...erm, heard from people that when they've met other neighborhood people online and such that they turn out to be lurkers on the board anyways. Which makes it funny if you have a bit of a board "persona." Plus I've always found the city itself to be a strange small world regardless, so on a really local level doesn't faze me. -
Candicissima wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]though, I must say, I wonder about some of my neighbors when I read the CL ads that say they're from PH. not that I haven't done it, but still, there are some really wacky characters out there. what if they're the new guy in my buidling? MEEP! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Well, I've...erm, heard from people that when they've met other neighborhood people online and such that they turn out to be lurkers on the board anyways. Which makes it funny if you have a bit of a board "persona." Plus I've always found the city itself to be a strange small world regardless, so on a really local level doesn't faze me.
let's not discuss who I've met from this board in other ways. ok?
in any case, I'd like to avoid this:
http://newyork.craigslist.org/lgi/m4w/124319483.html -
alafairnadia wrote:
oh my god.
in any case, I'd like to avoid this:
http://newyork.craigslist.org/lgi/m4w/124319483.html -
RAH wrote: [quote=alafairnadia]
oh my god.
in any case, I'd like to avoid this:
http://newyork.craigslist.org/lgi/m4w/124319483.html
right? I was like "um. no. and go away. hire someone. village voice. I promise." -
Oh my god. The Craig's list listing is totally horrifying.
I was reading this merely out of curiosity, having been partnered for too long to even mention without feeling too old for the board, BUT...
2006 is going to be a very important election year if we're going to take back either the House or the Senate. There's a war going on and all sorts of Republican scandals. SO: Political action, y'all. If you have enough time to socialize on a regular basis, and if you're interested in the world around you as well (which seems to be the case, reading the posts on the board), get active. This was how I met my husband years ago, as well as the previous partner.
This way you know you've got some important things in common already (ever broken up with someone because you found out s/he was a fascist but you hadn't realized it?), and a built-in way to hang out for a while without making any sort of commitment. Electoral campaign work, issues work, in NYC the possibilities are virtually endless. Plus, the more people working to fix this mess, the better. Two birds with one stone, so to speak. -
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iowagirl wrote: http://drinkingliberally.org/
as long as there's booze involved, I'm in. I refuse to meet single (or faux-single) guys soberesque. it makes my life way too complex - I tend to dwell on issues like employability (in his profession) and compatibility (rather than sexual *rawr*). so boring.
Go ahead, take a look. You know you want to... -
damn! the craigslist post that you linked was deleted by he who posted! so YOU KNOW he lurks this site. i was so looking forward to it, too. did you save it?
i can't imagine it is any worse than what you find in the w4w brooklyn craigslistings. i need to take a shower after every time i read those, not to mention find solace in my fowler's modern english usage text.
i think the craigs personals site/scene has devolved past the point of interest other than the voyeuristic. which, i guess, is perfectly fine by me :oops: -
iowagirl wrote: Oh my god. The Craig's list listing is totally horrifying.
It seems to me you'd have to go out of state to really make a big difference.
I was reading this merely out of curiosity, having been partnered for too long to even mention without feeling too old for the board, BUT...
2006 is going to be a very important election year if we're going to take back either the House or the Senate. There's a war going on and all sorts of Republican scandals. SO: Political action, y'all. If you have enough time to socialize on a regular basis, and if you're interested in the world around you as well (which seems to be the case, reading the posts on the board), get active. This was how I met my husband years ago, as well as the previous partner.
This way you know you've got some important things in common already (ever broken up with someone because you found out s/he was a fascist but you hadn't realized it?), and a built-in way to hang out for a while without making any sort of commitment. Electoral campaign work, issues work, in NYC the possibilities are virtually endless. Plus, the more people working to fix this mess, the better. Two birds with one stone, so to speak. -
I was doing issues work, not electoral work, at the time. If ACT (America Coming Together) or any out-of-state electoral campaign do phone banking, as they did last year, there will be NYC venues. There's election reform (voter fraud troubles in 2000 and 2004), lobbying reform, anti-war stuff, environmental work and all sorts of issues work you can get involved in without going to a specific electoral campaign. People can also get active in their local political parties (dems, Greens, whoever) to meet people and figure out how local and national politics can mesh. You can also volunteer to escort clients at Planned Parenthood or other clinics (to meet other volunteers), and who knows? Clinic defense may be required again at some point soon.
Clearly, I'm interested in more people becoming politically active, but it really is an effective way to meet people. Seriously, check out http://www.drinkingliberally.org/ -
I went to DL a couple of months ago, and it was packed. Someone asked how the Dems can get back into power, and I said "Nominate Nader." I had visions of being killed by a swarm of blue state emo boys. Good times.
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