sad brooklynian family news
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stacey wrote: That is so sad to hear my condolences go out to his friends and family. May be rest in peace
This is a lovely idea, Stacey.
As someone who lost their dad young it would be nice if those who knew him well could write a nice note to his daughter so that when she is older she may understand how truly loved her dad was.
Ugh, such a sad thing. I never met Sneaky myself, but from his posts here and the stories being told about him here and on the Facebook page it's clear he was a good soul. I hope his family and friends get through this okay, and I'm sure those who knew him won't forget what he meant to them. -
whynot_31 wrote: so sad.
No matter what, I hope other posters who might be depressed get help. The pain suicide causes survivors is too much for words. The holidays can depress people. I want us all here in 2009!
...suicide is so hard to understand. Sometimes you can understand the decision if you really knew the person, and know what they had been going through ...and know that nothing they have tried to relieve their pain has worked. -
raw wrote: [quote=whynot_31]so sad.
No matter what, I hope other posters who might be depressed get help. The pain suicide causes survivors is too much for words. The holidays can depress people. I want us all here in 2009!
...suicide is so hard to understand. Sometimes you can understand the decision if you really knew the person, and know what they had been going through ...and know that nothing they have tried to relieve their pain has worked.
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raw wrote: [quote=whynot_31]so sad.
No matter what, I hope other posters who might be depressed get help. The pain suicide causes survivors is too much for words. The holidays can depress people. I want us all here in 2009!
...suicide is so hard to understand. Sometimes you can understand the decision if you really knew the person, and know what they had been going through ...and know that nothing they have tried to relieve their pain has worked.
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my thoughts go out to his family and little girl. I agree with raw- depression needs to be treated as the potentially fatal illness that it is and I urge anyone experiencing hard times to seek professional or personal help. Anyone who is having a tough time can always feel free to message me for a coffee or a beer or anything, no questions asked and in confidentiality. Sometimes talking to anyone really does help and we all, as members of this community, should pay it forward.
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Carmen wrote: my thoughts go out to his family and little girl. I agree with raw- depression needs to be treated as the potentially fatal illness that it is and I urge anyone experiencing hard times to seek professional or personal help. Anyone who is having a tough time can always feel free to message me for a coffee or a beer or anything, no questions asked and in confidentiality. Sometimes talking to anyone really does help and we all, as members of this community, should pay it forward.
This is the most thoughtful and kind message I have ever seen on this board. You rock, Carmen. -
i only knew alex via the warm smiles he returned: in the 'nabe bars and when strolling by with my canine. he was extra generous in that regard!!! and, i knew him via his sneaky posts on various blogs, which kept me intrigued and entertained way into the night, way more often than i'd like. i hadnt connected these two souls until now.
a phenomenal loss. his human frailties and human graces and appetites and delights. and the way in which he was able to express them in a public forum...makes it even more so.
yes, all who are in pain need to know that there is help out here! in all manner... and that it can be amazingly effective and even transcendant... if you can get there/come here with yourself.
also, as someone 'in the field,' and somewhat off the record: when someone has exceeded their threshhold and this is their trajectory, there is little we can do, imo, but be respectful, help those close to mourn, help those in similar situations, and mourn ourselves.
rest in peace, alex; and peace to those near and dear to him. -
I am so sorry to hear this. His family and friends are in my prayers.
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Carmen, that was an exceptional message you wrote. Suicide can seem so seductive when someone is in great despair. It can feel like the pain will never end. And you are right that the family is left so incredibly devastated.
God bless to all and RIP Alex. -
Holy crap
My friend told me the dude died this weekend
HE was really a character man. REally lit up wherever he was. He was just posting here like last week! That's crazy. Really sad. So full of life too, what a bummer. I had no clue he was on the boards either. -
Only knew him through the board but will miss him snd give my respects.
He was such a personality I figured it ineveitable that I would eventually meet him around the hood.
Lost my chance at that. -
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alafairnadia wrote: I regret to inform all of you that our friend, bartender, smiling face and all around good guy, sneakyonstmarks, passed. I do not have details, so please don´t ask for them.
I am so sorry.
apparently there was a memorial service for him at soda last night -- can someone please let those of us who couldn´t be there know how it went?
I wish I had met him.
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kudos carmen-for saying and being ready to do the right thing. wish we had a "warm line" here, it's a hotline that's run by regular folks who answer it when they can. in the days of cell phones, it might be easier than it used to!
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The Chipster wrote: kudos carmen-for saying and being ready to do the right thing. wish we had a "warm line" here, it's a hotline that's run by regular folks who answer it when they can. in the days of cell phones, it might be easier than it used to!
wow I've never heard of the "warm line" concept- great idea! I wonder how that would work... -
I didn't know this guy, but I can only imagine the pain his family is in right now...and the pain HE must have been in.
I'll assume I'm not the only poster here who has ever been personally impacted by a loved one's suicide, but,
For those of you who have ever dealt with this, or thought about taking your own life...all I can say is, the ripples of grief you will leave behind are vast and wide and deep and irrevocable. Please reach out and get help.
I'm very sorry for everyone who's been affected by his death and for Mr. Gomez himself, who, even if temporarily, experienced a level of sadness that I hope I never know. -
I'm so shocked to hear this news. I didn't meet him in person either, but think of you all as friends, so I'm sad a friend died.
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I didn't know Alex/Sneaky, but did get a glimpse of his personality through his posts here. I am so sorry this happened and hope his loved ones somehow manage through what I imagine must be an incredibly painful and confusing time.
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poshspice wrote: I didn't know this guy, but I can only imagine the pain his family is in right now...and the pain HE must have been in.
Yes.
I'll assume I'm not the only poster here who has ever been personally impacted by a loved one's suicide, but,
For those of you who have ever dealt with this, or thought about taking your own life...all I can say is, the ripples of grief you will leave behind are vast and wide and deep and irrevocable. Please reach out and get help.
I'm very sorry for everyone who's been affected by his death and for Mr. Gomez himself, who, even if temporarily, experienced a level of sadness that I hope I never know.
If any one is living a life of pain and about to kill him or her self, it might be good to imagine a scale of pain and think about which pain is worse, the pain that you have caused by your depression, which can be temporary and treated, or the pain that some one who loves you will have caused by your death, which will last forever and can never be treated.
It's sad that people can be so isolated in our culture. It's tragic that we don't tell people how much we love them and try to help them enjoy their lives while they are alive. -
My heart and prayers go out to his family. I hope he is at peace now.
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I've heard of e-suicides before but never been on a board where it happened.
Very sad. Such an unanswerable question. Depression is so destructive. I hope his daughter gets the help she needs so that she doesn't follow down the same path. Is there a fund or a charity set up by sneaky's friends for her? -
Rest in peace Alex "Mohawk". Had a lot of fun with you at various bars in the hood. So sorry you had to go. Depression is hard to understand for those left behind. I hope your soul is at ease...
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