Restaurant obsession

I saw another post about this topic but it's old so I reposted. My son is over the line, I think, I'm trying to decide, when it comes to food, eating and restaurants. Restaurants have to be selected carefully each time and we have even driven around for 2-3 hours to hopefully find the "right" one. He criticizes anyone who just, say on a trip, eats at the first restaurant they see (obviously it isn't replusive in any way that is obvious). I like my recipe for stuffed peppers but he overides me and takes over and puts stuff in it I don't like, like cheese and two different kinds of meat, and tomato sauce instead of soup. He thinks my simple recipe is crap and he refuses to eat it, which is his perogative but why does it involve my character if I like it? Once in Spain he tracked down this place that was supposed to have great piea; but when they brought me a slice of bread he frowned when I reached for it and told me not to eat it. I got mad and it ruined the meal. He didn't want me to eat anything beforehand so I could "savor" the piea, but he didn't tell me this ahead of time, like I'm supposed to read his mind. You have to put this in the context of many scenarios where we get in a fight over 'food". Once in a Thai restaurant he got mad because he thought we we going to order and share and I misunderstood and he started yelling and berating me about eating crap and the waitress kept looking at me with pity. The problems, in retrospect, always have food somewhere in the picture. As for myself, I guess I'm just a regular person about food. I will eat something I don't like as much if it's more convenient. And if I have a bad meal I don't remember it for the rest of my life and recall it over the years. I just move on. I also don't remember every meal and what I ordered and what everyone else ordered and if I liked it. I mostly just forget what I ate a few weeks later. I say yes to any restaurant suggestions he has but then he drives me crazy asking me if I'm sure and offers other alternatives even after we had gone through the decision process already. We got in a huge fight last month because I suggested we go to Chili's; only because it's the only restaurant on the base and we were on the base. If we drive by restaurnants he can say definitively if the food is good or bad or which foods there are good or bad. And we are talking about over 100 restaurants in this small area. So, is it just that we differ in our attitude towards food and eating out or is it suggestive of some other problem on his part? Foodies respond, please. :?