Kid have sex but no Sex Ed

pitu · October 2009

I don't have kids, so I'm surprised to read about the lack of Sex Ed in public schools.

"New Yorkers want sex ed in schools: And most of them wrongly believe their kids are getting it." A few numbers from Feministe... http://bit.ly/4v3qpb

modsquad · October 2009

"New Yorkers want sex ed in schools: And most of them wrongly believe their kids are getting it."

That quote could read:
"New Yorkers want education in schools: And most of them wrongly believe their kids are getting it."

Putting 4 kids through public schools in NYC has left me with a bitter smirk on my puss, not unlike my avatar.

carnivore · October 2009

I remember having a sex ed class in 7th grade at Hunter (I think it was part of "Health Education" and was run by the Phys Ed department). Mrs. C says she had a class at Wagner, where she went to junior high. Of course, that was more than 2 decades ago.

carnivore · October 2009

That link says that the class is not required, but not that it's not offered, nor does it say what %age of student actually get a sex ed class. I would bet that most public schools, if not all, offer them.

whynot_31 · October 2009

A focus on the Regents requirements, along with No Child Left Behind, has forced school districts to only offer the required topics/courses.

...sex ed isn't required.

brianroberts · October 2009

This makes me sad. Lots of teenagers are having oral and anal sex believing that this is a safe alternative and as a way to "save their virginity". I had mandatory SexEd in HS on LI (25 years ago) and it was pretty straight-forward. Sad to know that it's not still part of the curriculum....and very thankful that I am not raising teenagers!

pitu · October 2009

I didn't click through the links in the Feministe piece when I read it this morning. Apparently Planned Parenthood is starting a campaign to "to make sure that public school students receive sex education. The Department of Education has already approved a curriculum, but a lot of schools are still not teaching it!"

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/nyc/Ensure-NYC-students-receive-sex-ed-30385.htm

^^^ That's cool. I'd be curious about the % too. Every grade school teacher in NYC I know has horror stories of vastly age-inappropriate student sexual behavior. I went to Catholic school (obvi decades ago) and we had pretty straight forward sex ed info...possibly those were wildly progressive nuns or something...

domino · October 2009

How scary is this? A few years ago, my niece (when she was 14) asked if oral sex was really sex. Obviously, a LOT of misinformation floating through this age group - the consensus of her posse was that NO it was not (which then you THINK would prompt the question - Well then why is it called oral SEX?)

After setting her straight (which I hope she shared) I asked what precisely was she learning in Sex Ed. No longer any Sex Ed classes - sex info was now part of Phys Ed and other than the basics on how a baby is made, no other info was provided. Did we find a cure for HIV/AIDS and I didn't hear about it? Was there a huge backlash by the uptight brigade on teaching kids about condoms?

I know there is a level of parental responsibility involved (a topic for a different thread) but it appears that the public school system is failing miserably at providing kids with the basic knowledge on how to function in society. The curriculum may be approved but if not implemented is utterly useless.

stacey · October 2009

My 13 year old son told me they get sex ed in their health class (which is once a week). I asked him what they spoke about it it was mostly about the reproductive systems, diseases, etc. I do remember there was a day that was devoted just to AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases. They gave the parents an chance to opt out their kid and many did. I am lucky that my son is comfortable enough with me to talk about these things and some of the questions he has asked made me slightly uncomfortable (i.e., what does 1st base, 2nd base mean) but it is very important that I don't act uncomfortable and I make sure to give him clear concise answers.

em26 · October 2009

We had a sex education course in Middle School/6th grade. I was 12/13 years old.

They didn't ask for permission from our parents , either. They just threw the pics on the projector and had some lady come in and explain.

It was gross. They showed us pics of private areas with STD's. :shock:

I didn't know what the hell they were talking about. I didn't know what sex was.I didn't know what I was looking at. Hell , up till then I had thought that parents just had to get married and kiss and that's how the mom got the baby in her stomach.Before that , I thought moms bought kids from stores. :oops:

anastasia beaverhausen · October 2009

Why does this make me think Em is the cutest thing ever?!

doctorj · October 2009

Em26 wrote:
up till then I had thought that parents just had to get married and kiss and that's how the mom got the baby in her stomach.

Ahh yes, the doctrine of emasculate conception.

Em26 wrote: Before that , I thought moms bought kids from stores.

I thought it was storks, not stores.

em26 · October 2009

Nope , it was stores.Candy stores.

domino · October 2009

Funny, I was on board with the stork concept as well until some pointed out the Baby Stores - hey, you got all the stuff related to them there - why not the actual baby?

When we learned about reproduction in junior high THAT'S when we freaked.
We went around saying EEEWWWW all day as we considered the fact that our parents might have done this very act in order to get to the end result (us).

All the only children went around all smug. Kinda felt bad for the Herman kids - there was nine of them. Proof positive that mom and dad went through this act nine times (at the MOST)!

carmen · October 2009

I lived in MA until I was 13 and had sex-ed in middleschool (6th grade to be exact.) We were split into separate classes- one for girls, one for boys- and taught about puberty, reproduction, stds/aids and safe sex. I moved to NC when I was in 9th grade and received no sex-ed or even health classes in highschool and was told by all of my peers that they received NO sex-ed in middleschool either. As a matter of fact, I graduated with a girl (who went on to NC State U) who didn't believe me when I told her that you cannot get AIDS from a mosquito...we were 18 yrs old. I also heard such circa 1950 gems as you can get pregnant in a swimming pool, you cannot get pregnant if you have sex standing up, and you cannot get pregnant having sex the first time...most of these were told to me my junior and senior years in highschool (meaning the kids were 16-18 tears old.)

SCARY

scarlett · October 2009

Totally scary. I had a similar class in CO in 5th grade. FIFTH grade. I was 11. Separated boys and girls, learned all about sex, periods, safe sex, and were encoouraged about abstinence. Didn't actually do condoms on bananas, but I do this with my teens now. Then we had more dirty details in 6th grade separated by gender, and then again in 7th grade all together.
My mom is a nurse and she used to test all her sibling materials on me, so I had a pretty early look at waaaaaaaaay too much. Then we all read Valley of Horses in 6th grade and learned about all the good stuff.

I wish teens had more information. Just this summer I heard a rumor that one of my teens was preggers. Turns out she asked another kid is a guy cums outside your vajay, could you still get pregnant and it turned into a rumor blah blah. Why don't kids get this information?

I try to give as much as possible to them, but by nature, teens will experiment outside of any discussion.

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