Abusive boyfriend throws girlfriend's stuff on sidewalk

Hey everyone out there, if you are concerned that domestic violence is occurring call 911. The police will respond, that's their job. The police can also press charges irrespective of what the victim says s/he wants.

Yeah, maybe the chick fucked his brother or something. Unless he was beating her down, leave it be. None of your bizness.

Subject: Re: Abusive boyfriend throws girlfriend's stuff on sidewalk

Rubyslipper wrote: A few mnutes ago walking the dog on Plaza St East near St John's young guy (20's) verbally fighting with girlfriend throws her stuff on sidewalk then in menacing tone tells concerned passersby to mind their own business when offering to help her. She was keeping her distance from him, very hesitant while picking up her stuff. She insisted she was "OK" but her body language said something else. Now I'm agitated and worried for her. Whewwww!

Its nice of you to care and if concerned, do call 911...

but maybe she was "keeping her distance" and being "hesitant" because as oldtime said,
1)she just fucked the guy's bro,
2) or his best friend,
3) or started doing drugs again
4) or stole his money or who knows what

There's plenty of legit reasons to have your triflin' ass thrown out on the street. Seems unfair to malign someone without having all the facts on hand.

The cops always say that domestic cases are the WORST to get involved with.
That said - could anyone look in their heart and say they did the right thing by turning away? Not me.

Whether the best friend got boned or the money was stolen - there is no excuse for someone to get physically violent or intimidate someone that is weaker. We tell our children to stand up against bullies - what that doesn't apply after grade school?

You did the right thing - someone was getting bullied and you alerted those trained to address it. GOOD FOR YOU.

Domino wrote: The cops always say that domestic cases are the WORST to get involved with.
That said - could anyone look in their heart and say they did the right thing by turning away? Not me.

Whether the best friend got boned or the money was stolen - there is no excuse for someone to get physically violent or intimidate someone that is weaker. We tell our children to stand up against bullies - what that doesn't apply after grade school?

You did the right thing - someone was getting bullied and you alerted those trained to address it. GOOD FOR YOU.

Re-reading the original post, I think the lack of details is leading people to having two very different views of what actually transpired.

I originally read as a boyfriend tossing his girlfriend's shit (clothes, furniture, etc.) onto the street and kicking her out of their apt.

Now a person can be kicked out of their place by an abusive asshole, which may be the case here. But a person can also be kicked out of their place for legit reasons, which was my point. We don't know what happened, so I just thought it unfair to automatically peg the Evictor as an asshole, without having all of the facts.

A person can rightfully be extremely angry without being violent or intimidating. That some people may INTERPRET another person's anger as being scary doesn't neccesarily correlate with whether the irate person is ACTUALLY scary.

That said, upon re-reading I suppose it is possible to read the OP and interpret it as angry, abusive boyfriend grabbed stuff out of girlfriend's hands or purse or person and threw them to the ground. So that would be abusive.

Not enough details I suppose.

I used to live in an apartment where the upstairs neighbors regularly had screaming matches. When they started throwing things I called 311 who passed me onto 911. The police rang my door buzzer to be buzzed in, they never told the neighbors who called them, and I was never given any follow up information - that's the way it works.

If you suspect domestic violence, call 911, the police will be the ones to make the decision as to whether abuse is actually occurring or whether the caller misinterpreted the situation. The DA is not going to bring a case if there is no evidence. You don't have to call 911 from your cell phone standing in the street where everyone can see you, you can and should find a discreet place, you need to protect yourself as well. If in doubt call 911 and let the police decide, that's their job, that's what they're trained for (among many other things).

talk to the girl. get a feel of the situation. call 911 or the local precinct/beat cops if you feel it is necessary (in Kensington I have the local beat cops's card with his # up on my fridge, never had to use it but nice to know it's there).

if you are concerned enough to post this you should have been concerned enough to call 911.

Mountebank wrote:
No one would think of calling the police.

Probably because the vast majority of domestic violence is men hitting women, not the other way around.

unless he's a drummer

he can sleep in his car well into his 50s

ParadeRest wrote: [quote=jml]
Probably because the vast majority of domestic violence is men hitting women, not the other way around.

That is extremely incorrect.

Parade is this bait ? The issue is everybody wants to help, nobody is willing to get shot or witness to the cops to find out the abused woman sides with the abuser and you get shot later.

ParadeRest wrote: [quote=jml]
Probably because the vast majority of domestic violence is men hitting women, not the other way around.

That is extremely incorrect.

Are you sure? I thought that was the case from what I've read, and when I googled "domestic violence statistics", the American Bar Association website had these statistics:

QUOTE
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, between 1998 and 2002:

* Of the almost 3.5 million violent crimes committed against family members, 49% of these were crimes against spouses.
* 84% of spouse abuse victims were females, and 86% of victims of dating partner abuse at were female.

/END QUOTE

The problem with DOJ numbers is that (just like robberies/burglaries) domestic violence is grossly under reported. Domestic violence is also used as a tool by some people to file bogus reports and have their partner arrested for an incident that didn't occur.

Check out this site...http://www.mediaradar.org/

i'm going to bring a absurd angle to this since i'm bored. you sure it wasn't a pimp doing his job . liking fire his ho? (like i said absurd )

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