Best spot to meet single straight women?

anonymous · June 2006

Anonymous wrote: 2) yes, I am close to 40, but (this is for KensingtonMom), I am NOT looking specifically to get married. Seems many married folk and older folk seem to think that this is what all of us single chicks aspire to, and I'm one to say it just ain't so. I don't think marriage is the "ultimate achievement" in life or is anyhing I am striving for. If it happens, fine, if not, equally fine.

I am definitely not one of those married-centric types. I happen to like being marrie but it is not for everyone. I was reluctant to tie the knot and had my own Peter Pan freak out moments but in the end, I felt we committed to something higher than our individual selves. The marriage becomes more than the sum of the parts in a weird way. But I didn't mean to imply with my two friends planning their weddings that finding a guy and getting married is the end all. It just so happens they both want children and wanted to be married to have children. I also have friends who want children and are not getting married and are doing it on their own. So there are all kinds of scenarios that work.

It just bugs me that nice women have to endure these deadly dates with losers. I know, I know, there are lots of men who have had bad dates too. It just seems to me, my guy friends go on two or three blind dates and they meet a great woman. The two that don't work out are perfectly acceptable and nice woman but just not right. While my single woman friends have to go on date after date after date after date (but do eventually find someon, But it is a helluva lot more crappy evenings to get there!) And frankly some of these guys that could really use a little freshening up on the manners, interpersonal skills and hygiene areas are thinking that woman should be lining up for THEM!!

So if you are a single guy in New York who has been single for a long time, I really think you need to take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself why. Are you sure it isn't you?

liftandcut · June 2006

Alfairnadia, you're right, they're all freaks.
kensington, we need to tell them to act like nice people and, as i said above, not act like freaks. it's as though they know there are more of them than use which gives them permission to act as base as they can. because they can do so and still get girlfriends.
and i did read you wrong, because there are TONS of single women in this city, under 30.

Ok, forget about the age thing, first of all. It's irrelevant. Here's the deal: there are far more women in the boroughs than men, and toss in all of the gay dudes, and that just shrinks the man pool even more. Even the nicest guy in the world will wake up one morning and realize all of this and decide that he's going with his id and will invariably, decide to date many women at once. Because he can. This phase might not last for long, but if you happen to be one of the women in the scenario, then you will hate men, and all of that stuff. The best piece of advice I can give to you women who are so down on men is try to find guys who are from the five boroughs. You will be pleasantly surprised.

quijibo · June 2006

i've only been in the dating game for 2 years now
nah. probably more like 1 year psychologically

i mean. with the active intent of meeting a partner
-in stead of a friend with benefits

so it's a matter of timing as well
the male and the female need to be actively in tune

otherwise, it's just painful
on both sides

and sometimes it never happens

alafairnadia · June 2006

well, that's why I've just stopped trying. I'm friendly, I'll chat. but I don't even consider men dating material until they work at it. not because I think men need to work harder at dating, but the odds are in their favor at this city. if they want a relationship, they should be aware that most women here are either newly arrived or recently burned.

liftandcut · June 2006

I love it when the odds are in my favor!

newsloper · June 2006

Being the original poster, I thank you all for your replies! Honestly, I didnt mean to sound like I was desperate to meet a woman, just to know where one would look if he wanted to meet a single person of the opposite sex!

I think age is completely irrelevant, but MATURITY is a key factor in a relationship. You can be 55 years old and have the maturity of a 12 year old child, or you can be 24 years old and have the maturity of an older person. So, age, to me at least is irrelevant.

BrooklynPotter, you aren't adorable.... beautiful is a better word. Your pottery (on the website) seems elegant and very impressive!

Got out of the hospital a bit early today, so time to unwind a bit and somehow push myself to drop off my laundry to the laundromat
:?

quijibo · June 2006

dating has a considerable learning curve
considerable

while i don't presently, know much about dating
it's still a lot more compared to a year ago,

this dating thing ain't easy
values of what you find attractive keep changing
as one keeps changing

anonymous · June 2006

Dating's easy. It's managing the dates, that's the hard part.

liftandcut · June 2006

Sorry. That was me. I meant to say that getting dates is the easy part. Managing the different threads is the hard part. Ultimately it gets ridiculous, and one might need to back out quietly and go underground for a spell.

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meeshka · July 2006

The crow flies at midnight.

carmen · July 2006

anyone who wants to find cute single straight(ish) women can come to my apartment and find them. Well at least one.

Unless you're creepy. then please ignore this invitation.

anna famoso · July 2006

Rumor has it Carmen likes alcohol and has no friends. She does, however, seem to have a good sense of humor

carmen · July 2006

^haha I like to think so! I actually just went and bought a bottle of wine for my dern self- I got my first job offer today and im celebrating, friends or no friends!!

chayasophia · July 2006

Congratulations (am looking for a new job, too)!

I opened a bottle of wine just now for my dinner. A fine bottle of Two Buck Chuck thanks to Trader Joe's

carmen · July 2006

where's the trader joe's around here? thus far I've been doing all bodega groceries and its getting $$ (and sodium laden...)

I went through recruiters and had some awesome experiences- if you're interested in anything admin/support I can give you the names of some great people.

debra · July 2006

Thanks, but I'm looking for a senior client relations-type role.

TJs is on 14th St at around 4th Ave. in Union Sq.

If you want some cheap and tasty wine from a place that really appreciates their customers, I suggest shopping at Slope Cellars on 7th Ave. btw. 14-15th. Patty and crew are great at making suggestions and don't turn up their noses at people who are looking for bargains (read: cheap wine).

vanilla · July 2006

Carmen wrote: anyone who wants to find cute single straight(ish) women can come to my apartment and find them. Well at least one.

Unless you're creepy. then please ignore this invitation.

what about armchair_warrior? hear he's a fine fellow...

brooklynpotter · July 2006

carmen, congrats on the job.

i'm not a single guy, but am a single woman. always up for sharing that bottle of wine--or pitcher of margaritas--and moaning about the fact that all the men in PS are gay. except steve who's in the yucatan

va2brooklyn · July 2006

brooklynpotter wrote: carmen, congrats on the job.

i'm not a single guy, but am a single woman. always up for sharing that bottle of wine--or pitcher of margaritas--and moaning about the fact that all the men in PS are gay. except steve who's in the yucatan

ooooh...Is Steve cute? Has this been independently confirmed?

I love the Yucatan. Give me some Isla Mujeres or Playa del Carmen any day!

brooklynpotter · July 2006

i've seen a picture, steve is a nice looking man.

novodvo2 · July 2006

....and I just saw your picture - you're a nice-looking woman (that looks stranger online than it sounded in my head).

A Brooklynian love match, perhaps?

p.s. - nice pottery, too.

anonymous · July 2006

<--- Wouldn't mind a date

jmay · July 2006

^ who dat?

anonymous · July 2006

Hmm.. I registered once, but then forgot my name and pwd, so I am usually Guest, or sometimes Guy_with_Helmet.

I'm not really around much, actually.

benrub · July 2006

"Guy with Helmet" prompts all kinds of silly jokes in my head. I swear I was a 12 year old boy in a past life

anonymous · July 2006

Either I ride a motorcycle, have a really bad hairdo, or have some sort of obsessive-compulsive sidewalk safety concern.

combustiblegirl · July 2006

Anonymous wrote: Either I ride a motorcycle, have a really bad hairdo, or have some sort of obsessive-compulsive sidewalk safety concern.

Any of which should easily land you a date.

anonymous · July 2006

Ok I registered (again) and henceforth, I will be known as Hell_Toupe.

Now I have to wait for account to be activated..

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