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Getting a job after being fired — Brooklynian

Getting a job after being fired

I need some advice. BTW, I'm a regular here, but felt uncomfortable posting under my username.

I was let go from my job a few months ago for "performance." My last project was difficult and took longer to launch than desired. Up until that project, I had good evaluations. I was given one warning, vague instructions on how to improve, did my best and then a week after my project launched, got the boot.

Everyone was surprised, everyone felt it was unjust. My boss and I had frequent differences of opinion, which likely played a major role in my firing. I got severance and some of my coworkers are references.

I've been struggling A LOT on how to handle why I'm no longer with that company. I have used either the following when asked:
the company and I were a bad fit. I worked very hard, my products were good and well received, and I was let go with severance pay, with references and without hard feelings.
and
just wasn't a good fit. my products were good and well received, but they wanted to go in a different direction.
My resume/experience is awesome. I get contacted almost immediately after submitting my resume. However, I'm not passing the phone screens. AT ALL. Why waste time with me when there are people applying who haven't been fired?

I don't want to lie. But, what I'm saying isn't working. How can I best handle this? What can I say that isn't a flat out lie but doesn't make me sound like a loser?

Help! I need a job. :(

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  • First, the job market sucks for everybody. You are competing against people who have not been let go for performance-related issues. The reality is you are going to have to work harder and get luckier than most others to land somewhere. I am sure you've recognized that already....but now you have to find a different way to shine and market yourself.

    What does your severance letter say? Does it specify performance as cause of termination? I ask because most companies will NOT say that - they are afraid of being sued. Read it carefully and make sure you know what the wording is.

    Next, find out exactly what your former firm will say if called to verify employment. MOST places will only verify title and dates of employment. They will NOT comment on salary or performance-related issues without a release from you because (again) they don't want to be sued.

    So, UNLESS your letter says performance-related causes AND your firm will say that if called for a reference (make sure you know which number to give for references - if it's a large(r) firm, this type of stuff goes to HR or employee relations and they are trained on how to handle these requests - some even have them computerized and don't let the person calling for a reference talk to a human), don't volunteer this information.

    Stick with the first part of your story - your products were good and well-received, but ultimately this was not the right fit for either YOU or the firm. If they keep pushing, you can say "I decided to focus on new opportunities". It's not a lie - you simply were FORCED to look for new opportunities...but again, you don't have to volunteer that.

    If you still have a dialog past that point, you can start to volunteer people that are happy to give them insight into your qualifications (making absolutely sure you have prepped the people on what to say and what not to say and that they are comfortable being a reference).

    Again, not to be depressing, but you have a tougher battle. My advice is simply "know when to keep your mouth shut". You don't need to volunteer unnecessary details. People get themselves into trouble by over-explaining their situation(s).

    If it comes out eventually that you were let go for performance, you can then talk about what you've taken away from the experience and keep that part of the conversation up-beat without pointing fingers ("I learned to make sure that both the employer and I have clear expectations of what the project entails and what the criteria for success is/are. I learned to ask for periodic check-points when tackling something new to ensure that I am meeting expectations and so I can listen to feedback and take any corrective measures (if necessary)").

    I've been both a hiring manager and a person who has been on the job hunt more than I hoped I ever would be......although never for performance. As a hiring manager, I *have* hired people who have been let go, as long as they have been able to discuss things without bad-mouthing any individuals or the firm, even if they deserve it (sounds like you have this part down) and if they can say what they learned along the way .

    Good luck!
  • Some good advice from Flexi.

    Yes, keep it simple.

    Also... you sound bummed. You sound beaten. Apologetic. Stop it. Properly delivered, your above script could get the job done, even if it's not perfect. If you're not in a good state of mind when they call, don't answer. Let it go to voicemail and give them a call back after a little exercise.
  • Thanks, Flexichick. I've been very nervous when getting to this part of the conversation. Even when I specifically leave out "I was let go" often I'm asked directly: "Was I laid off? Was it mutual?" and I overshare.

    I checked my letter. It makes no mention of performance or any reason at all. It was all verbal. The letter confirms my "separation" and gives information on my final paycheck and insurance.

    The only phone numbers I was planning on giving out were those of my direct references, not for HR or the main number.

    It is very depressing. Going on six months. Today after two back-to-back phone screens when after they asked why I wasn't with my former company, they lost interest, I wanted to cry.

    Thanks for your advice. Really helpful.
  • ^definitely good advice from WhyFi. If you can't get your head in the right state to have a discssion, don't have the discussion. It's tempting to keep calling and keep answering the phone so you don't miss an opportunity and so that you feel productive. When your heart isn't in it, people can tell. Step away and re-group
  • WhyFi wrote: Some good advice from Flexi.

    Yes, keep it simple.

    Also... you sound bummed. You sound beaten. Apologetic. Stop it. Properly delivered, your above script could get the job done, even if it's not perfect. If you're not in a good state of mind when they call, don't answer. Let it go to voicemail and give them a call back after a little exercise.
    You're right - beaten and apologetic. Some days are better than others, but good idea on just not picking up the phone and practicing this part beforehand some more. I need to get more comfortable with what I'm saying and put my achievements out there.

    Thanks.
  • You have to really get the story "down" in your head so you can say it with confidence. Maybe join some networking groups or see if you can find some free coaching somewhere. Did your severance come with outplacement services? Some of them are crap, but others are decent and you might get somebody who can help you role play it.
  • It is NOT a good thing to use any negative reply, such as "we were NOT a good fit"
    A good reply is that the company was downsizing or reorganized and keep it short and sweet. It is difficult to be let go and we can ponder it until the cows come home. Keep it simple sweetheart. Good luck!
  • ^she has a good point. I retract what I said before - I was responding to what you wrote.

    If ythey didn't say anything in your severance letter, you can say reorg (which is even more simple than downsizing - downsizing is easier to check than a simple reorg)
  • We've probably all worked with some real losers (bad at job, lazy, etc.). How did they get the job? They sold themselves!

    You're selling yourself, not begging for them to take you. I agree with others that you can/should put a more positive spin on why you aren't at the old job while boosting yourself. "I was doing a great job on my assignments but there wasn't enough challenge" or something along these lines.

    Oh, and please take a minute to read the post in the link below. I'm guessing you are female (for no good reason), but even if you're not, I like his advice on promoting yourself. I'm not trying to start an argument about gender stereotypes here, just hoping someone else's words might help BummedOut.

    Read this little rant/essay:
    http://www.shirky.com/weblog/2010/01/a-rant-about-women/

    Good luck!
  • ^More good points.

    Also, don't forget that you need to interview THEM. Always do your research and don't be afraid to find out what the firm and the role offer YOU. It's a two-way street and people often forget this.

    Plus, once you start asking questions, you can take the focus off of them asking you what happened in your last role.

    Avoid getting into those "Tell me about yourself" interviews that end in "we'll let you know". You should be asking them a lot of questions in return (NOT salary related until there is an offer being discussed).

    Plus, Google yourself and make sure there is nothing unprofessional to be found. Check your Facebook, Twitter, etc., and lock it down tight.

    If you are looking for corporate roles, create (or update) a LinkedIn profile and get recommenation. I have almost 20 from all kinds of people. I know that this contributed to my landing my last role (after TWELVE interviews).

    (p.s. I should note for the haters that I *am* currently unemployed - got laid off after breaking my ankle (long story). That said, I have learned a lot over the years)
  • Subject: Time to get Rehired

    The greatest challenge during this "season of downsizing" is to understand the options that are the future. Focusing on the reasons for receipt of The Pink Slip is a must --during the first week of termination. After a week, its time to get back on the employment horse.
    When submitting your resume capitalize on your strengths, performances, can-do attitude, capitalize on the uniqueness that YOU brought to the company, the acclaim that is privy only to you.
    When the tough question comes, "are you currently employed?", answer honestly, and to the point; "I was downsized"...short and sweet. The answer is factual and, in most cases an honest depiction of the EMPLOYERS foresight of financial s and no reflection of the employee.
    Life sometimes hands you lemons, but, I found when perusing the pages of The Pink Slip- HR Secrets for the Downsized, its time to make lemonade. The real survivors of being downsized, use the opportunity to Re-Invent self. What will you do with yours? Empower yourself with this Free networking function-(resume workshop, interviewing techniques, and career guidance) at Soule restaurant on Sunday afternoon, after 3 pm.
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  • I agree with the comment about just saying you were downsized. Keep it simple. Use the recession without saying it, just imply blame there..

    I wouldn't say: anything about not being challenged. That sounds bs-ish and like a cover for something that happened you don't want to talk about. Be enthusiastic, but not eager. Play it cool. Talk about what you can do for the company you're interviewing for. Tell them about your professional goals. Be as original as possible. Don't talk like a boring resume with that kind of stiff, cardboard language. And confidence is everything. Good luck! Your job loss was probably an opporunity in disguise.
  • Thanks everyone, and thanks for that Clay Shirky link as he's a guy I admire. For serious I'm done saying I was let go and I'm getting myself a J-O-B!

    You guys have really helped me out and I feel a lot better. I'll let you know how it goes. :)
  • not looking to escalate it, but you need to be fired for just reason.

    Unless it was a company downsize...which it wasnt.

    I know of a few people who have sued for unjust firings and have settled out of court.

    Unjust would be the lack of procedure of going through H.R. and given legitimate warnings.

    From your side of the story, it seems like this is a course you could be able to take.

    I know it may sound silly and people may say "omg, another person who is sue happy", but this is a job we are talking about. Not spilling hot coffee on yourself and blaming the restaurant because of your own incompetence.

    Yes, it is a very litigious time and this is one of the valid reasons to sue. If you truly feel it was unjust, you might have a case. And if you do have a case and win, you will have some extra cash to hold you over while you look for the next job
  • hitokiri wrote: not looking to escalate it, but you need to be fired for just reason.

    Unless it was a company downsize...which it wasnt.

    I know of a few people who have sued for unjust firings and have settled out of court.

    Unjust would be the lack of procedure of going through H.R. and given legitimate warnings.

    From your side of the story, it seems like this is a course you could be able to take.
    From my understanding, NY is an at will employment state and companies can fire you for any reason, barring discrimination.

    I may not think my firing was fair, but they were within their rights to let me go.

    Thanks though.
  • ^ plus it is a lot harder to sue somebody after you've already signed and accepted the severance package.
  • bummedout wrote: [quote=hitokiri]not looking to escalate it, but you need to be fired for just reason.

    Unless it was a company downsize...which it wasnt.

    I know of a few people who have sued for unjust firings and have settled out of court.

    Unjust would be the lack of procedure of going through H.R. and given legitimate warnings.

    From your side of the story, it seems like this is a course you could be able to take.
    From my understanding, NY is an at will employment state and companies can fire you for any reason, barring discrimination.

    I may not think my firing was fair, but they were within their rights to let me go.

    Thanks though.

    In addition to "any reason", they can also fire you for no reason at all.

    In the case of "any reason" (barring discrimination), you won't be eligible for NYS unemployment if your employer can show that you were fired for cause (excessive lateness, on going poor performance, etc).

    In the case of "no reason", you are eligible for unemployment. "No reason", "Downsizing", "restructuring", and even the famous "bad fit" will all result in a maximum check of $430 ($405 plus the $25 recession bonus).
    ...
  • whynot_31 wrote:

    In the case of "any reason" (barring discrimination), you won't be eligible for NYS unemployment if your employer can show that you were fired for cause (excessive lateness, on going poor performance, etc).

    In the case of "no reason", you are eligible for unemployment. "Downsizing", "restructuring", and even the famous "bad fit" will result in a maximum check of $430 ($405 plus the $25 recession bonus).
    ...
    Didn't know that. I'm collecting unemployment so I guess they put down "no reason?"
  • Under the new administration and coupled the the recession, lots of people and their reasons for being out of work are now accepted -- they used to be more strict.

    I'm freelancing now, doing what I considered a hobby before, and was enormously happy when both my director and I ended our service to that job/institution.. what ever you want to call it. I was legitimately laid off though, with a great severance package. Unemployment is supplementing my freelance work and I'm a happy camper!

    You can be too! Think of it as FUNemployment!
  • bummedout wrote: [quote=whynot_31]

    In the case of "any reason" (barring discrimination), you won't be eligible for NYS unemployment if your employer can show that you were fired for cause (excessive lateness, on going poor performance, etc).

    In the case of "no reason", you are eligible for unemployment. "No reason", "Downsizing", "restructuring", and even the famous "bad fit" will result in a maximum check of $430 ($405 plus the $25 recession bonus).
    ...
    Didn't know that. I'm collecting unemployment so I guess they put down "no reason?"

    The trick getting unemployment is to never, ever, give them a letter of resignation. ....make them fire you instead.

    You can then file for unemployment, and have a good chance of getting it b/c a lot of businesses either:

    a. Don't contest unemployment when they have a weak reason for firing someone

    b. Are too lazy to show up for a unemployment hearing

    c. Lose at the unemployment hearing and then have to pay out b/c they didn't maintain a good paper trail of how the employee's performance was lousy.
  • bummedout wrote: Thanks everyone, and thanks for that Clay Shirky link as he's a guy I admire. For serious I'm done saying I was let go and I'm getting myself a J-O-B!

    You guys have really helped me out and I feel a lot better. I'll let you know how it goes. :)
    Yay! Go get 'em!

    I'm in the midst of a career change and that Shirky article was very inspiring to me. I remember when I had to screen potential hires (the only good thing that boss did was let those of us actually working with a new hire choose and interview them), we could usually tell gender just based on the cover letter. We had a lot of foreign names so gender was not obvious.
  • There is hope out there if you're willing to keep working hard: I finally found work too! I had given up on this company after an interview made me realize they didn't have the right position for me, but the guy there told me he'd keep my resume on file and would refer me to any relevant opening in the near future. Lucky for me they kept their word; imagine my surprise being called in for a second interview a whole month+ later, for a new position!
    I'm very happy to have this opportunity, and realize that this combination of timing, interview finese, and shear luck is unusual. Then again, everyone doesn't share the polished resume we're reading about here.
  • MattHurst wrote: There is hope out there if you're willing to keep working hard: I finally found work too! I had given up on this company after an interview made me realize they didn't have the right position for me, but the guy there told me he'd keep my resume on file and would refer me to any relevant opening in the near future. Lucky for me they kept their word; imagine my surprise being called in for a second interview a whole month+ later, for a new position!
    I'm very happy to have this opportunity, and realize that this combination of timing, interview finese, and shear luck is unusual. Then again, everyone doesn't share the polished resume we're reading about here.
    Great! I never hear about that happening, so you must have really left an impression. Are they hiring?? :lol:
  • That happened to Mrs. C a few years ago. Didn't get a job she interviewed for, but got offered a better job at higher pay at the same company a few months later.
  • and until the new employer finds you, it is important to stay busy.

    nothing is worse for you than sitting around ruminating about your old job, and looking at the phone waiting for potential employers to call.

    ...find something cheap you enjoy.

    explore the city, whatever.

    I recently had a four month stint of funemployment, and started a handyman business that allowed me to do things I enjoyed (i.e. make messes with power tools).
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