Ladies: Very Creepy Guy Just Followed Me From the Subway
So, I got on the F train just now at 14th St. in Manhattan. My date waited with me until the train came. Just as I was getting on the train, a guy got on in the same car with me and was staring at me so hard and so creepy that he was freaking me out. He went to one end of the car, and I went to the other. Then he got up and started walking towards me, so I got up and didn't look at him and walked to the other end of the car. He was still staring hard at me, so when the train came to a stop, I got off and went into the car behind the one I was in.
I was going to get off and wait for the next train but track work was to start at 12 at it was 11:20 or so.
After a few stops, I bent forward to look into the next car and there he was, still staring at me. Must have been waiting for me to look.
At 11:30, we hit the 4th Street Station and they announced that the train was going to go express and that the track work started early. This means they would have skipped my stop (15th Street).
On a nice night, in a safe neighborhood, I wouldn't mind walking, but I was feeling really creeped out.
A lot of people got off at the 7th Ave stop (from the 8th Ave. exit) and I stuck with the crowd and turned down 12th Street, knowing that the bar would be open.
Sure enough, the guy got off the train too.
I stood in front of the bar and called Eastern for a car home (all 8 blocks or so).
I saw the guy walk up to the corner, just about to turn onto 12th Street - I think he was trying to follow me from a bit of a distance. When he saw me in front of the bar with other people (who were smoking outside) he stopped in his tracks and went the other way.
I'm no wuss, but I'm very aware of my surroundings. This guy gave me the creeps and I think he was truly up to no good. The $8 I spent to get home was well worth it.
If this happens to you, I suggest you also go to the closest place where there are people - a bodega (excuse me ....Korean market), a bar, etc.
Since I'm sure somebody will ask - he was about 35-45, short (maybe 5'6" - 5'8"), possibly Latino, with dark hair and a big, dark mustache. He was wearing jeans and a black t-shirt.
I'm glad to be home.
I was going to get off and wait for the next train but track work was to start at 12 at it was 11:20 or so.
After a few stops, I bent forward to look into the next car and there he was, still staring at me. Must have been waiting for me to look.
At 11:30, we hit the 4th Street Station and they announced that the train was going to go express and that the track work started early. This means they would have skipped my stop (15th Street).
On a nice night, in a safe neighborhood, I wouldn't mind walking, but I was feeling really creeped out.
A lot of people got off at the 7th Ave stop (from the 8th Ave. exit) and I stuck with the crowd and turned down 12th Street, knowing that the bar would be open.
Sure enough, the guy got off the train too.
I stood in front of the bar and called Eastern for a car home (all 8 blocks or so).
I saw the guy walk up to the corner, just about to turn onto 12th Street - I think he was trying to follow me from a bit of a distance. When he saw me in front of the bar with other people (who were smoking outside) he stopped in his tracks and went the other way.
I'm no wuss, but I'm very aware of my surroundings. This guy gave me the creeps and I think he was truly up to no good. The $8 I spent to get home was well worth it.
If this happens to you, I suggest you also go to the closest place where there are people - a bodega (excuse me ....Korean market), a bar, etc.
Since I'm sure somebody will ask - he was about 35-45, short (maybe 5'6" - 5'8"), possibly Latino, with dark hair and a big, dark mustache. He was wearing jeans and a black t-shirt.
I'm glad to be home.
Comments
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shoot, that's really creepy. you were smart to play it safe / listen to your instincts
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once i got on a train and this girl got on the train. when i got off, she got off. and off course this girl is giving me all these looks and i'm like wtf. anyway sometimes people have wild imaginations.
another time these two african american dudes where in all white area. and i was running for the bus and they were in front of me and they started to run. they thought i was gonna mug them cuase they were like hey blah blah blah we arent afriad and i just laugh and pointed to the bus. -
AW, I don't think I was imagining this.
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i'm saying sometimes things can be a coincidences and the human mind just see's more things than it is.
off course this thing could be like the utlimate stalker. hey glad youre okay. -
He doesn't have to be 'the ultimate stalker' to be scary and potentially dangerous, of course. Just a regular old miscreant can be those things.
Yikes. Sorry to hear. -
Subject: Re: Ladies: Very Creepy Guy Just Followed Me From the Subway
Flexichick wrote: he was about 35-45, short (maybe 5'6" - 5'8"), possibly Latino, with dark hair and a big, dark mustache.
the neighbourhood's not the same as it used to be.
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Subject: Re: Ladies: Very Creepy Guy Just Followed Me From the Subway
MeanDººD wrote: [quote=Flexichick] he was about 35-45, short (maybe 5'6" - 5'8"), possibly Latino, with dark hair and a big, dark mustache.
the neighbourhood's not the same as it used to be.
nooooooooooooooooo noooooooooooooo not him again
. the tv dude creeps me out!!! -
armchair_warrior wrote: once i got on a train and this girl got on the train. when i got off, she got off. and off course this girl is giving me all these looks and i'm like wtf.
Come on admit it AW you know your a chick magnet
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stacey wrote: [quote=armchair_warrior]once i got on a train and this girl got on the train. when i got off, she got off. and off course this girl is giving me all these looks and i'm like wtf.
Come on admit it AW you know your a chick magnet
no no i'm the stalker damn it!! no chick magnet i go after them actively. -
glad you got home ok. And the rest of you, for once can we not make a joke of something that's actually quite serious?
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creepy creepy creepy, worse because they do that express train thing which forces us to a: get off at 7th and walk home alone late at night, or b: take train to church, not the safest place to be late at night, and wait for a train in the other direction. calling the car was a good call.
when the F is running correctly and it's late, i usually get off on the 16th street stop, in front of farrell's... i know that if anyone's following me i can duck into there and tell any of the patrons and the guy will be mauled. gotta love the fireman/policeman bar. -
trixieNYC wrote: glad you got home ok. And the rest of you, for once can we not make a joke of something that's actually quite serious?
Trixie she is ok if she wasn't people would be joking but what do you expect friends joke with friends -
I'm happy to hear that for once someone took the proper precautions to protect themselves. Getting off the train, going to a populated area, calling a car. So obvious, and yet so rare! Good job, flexi. And sorry to hear you had to deal with that asshole.
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stacey wrote: [quote=trixieNYC]glad you got home ok. And the rest of you, for once can we not make a joke of something that's actually quite serious?
Trixie she is ok if she wasn't people would be joking but what do you expect friends joke with friends
whatever. my point is we all make a mockary of everything on this board.
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sorry to hear this flexi
the only advice i can give is to not be afraid to yell and alert others -
Subject: Re: Ladies: Very Creepy Guy Just Followed Me From the Subway
Flexichick wrote: with dark hair and a big, dark mustache.
Another reason to avoid people with mustaches!
I'm glad to be home.
Seriously though, that was a creepy story. What a sick fuck he must be! -
Thank you all.
I actually finally slept last night (wine, xanax and Spanish book).
I had somebody force me off the road (road rage) in broad daylight once. He then chased me in his car and I drove to a gas station. Fucker got out and punched me in the head in front of a bunch of people.
Very long story, but I knew - even in my panic - that I had to get to someplace where there were people.
I pulled into the station and just leaned on my horn until everybody noticed. -
Subject: Ladies: Creepy guy....
I think Flexichick reacted exactly right in this instance and think everyone who wants to pooh-pooh her intuition should be ashamed of themselves. Malcolm Gladwell writes of exactly this kind of situation in his book "Blink" and calls it "rapid cognition," about the kind of thinking that happens in a blink of an eye.
Yeah, it could have been a coincidence the guy followed her all the way from Union Square back to Park Slope and up onto the street, with his eyes fixed on her all the way. But it's her body that gets attacked if she drops her guard, not yours, you pooh-pooh-ers.
As for Flexichick, let them call you paranoid, uptight, hyper-vigilant or un-PC, but you got home safe. All that other static will only make you hesitate next time you're in that situation. Don't listen to them.
PS - I liked the recent story of the woman who took a picture of a flasher on the train with her cell. Could you have done that or would it have inflamed the situation? -
Flexichick wrote:
Wow, you seriously must attract the freaks!
I had somebody force me off the road (road rage) in broad daylight once. He then chased me in his car and I drove to a gas station. Fucker got out and punched me in the head in front of a bunch of people.
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kosherdave wrote: [quote=Flexichick]
Wow, you seriously must attract the freaks!
I had somebody force me off the road (road rage) in broad daylight once. He then chased me in his car and I drove to a gas station. Fucker got out and punched me in the head in front of a bunch of people.
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I know, just look at the people on this thread
Yes, trust your instincts - they almost never let you down.
I also told one of the women who was smoking outside so that it looked like i was talking to people (and so that she could keep an eye out herself - both for me and for her own safety when she left) and I told the cabdriver, who stayed outside and waited until I was safely in the house and flashed the front door lights. -
Subject: Re: Ladies: Creepy guy....
Slope4-35Yrs wrote: I think Flexichick reacted exactly right in this instance and think everyone who wants to pooh-pooh her intuition should be ashamed of themselves. Malcolm Gladwell writes of exactly this kind of situation in his book "Blink" and calls it "rapid cognition," about the kind of thinking that happens in a blink of an eye.
My blackberry phone doesn't have a camera on it, but I also didn't want to give this guy any attention. I was trying to not make eye contact as to not encourage him. I think sometimes making eye contact and staring them down IS the right thing to do, other times not. Intuition, I guess.
Yeah, it could have been a coincidence the guy followed her all the way from Union Square back to Park Slope and up onto the street, with his eyes fixed on her all the way. But it's her body that gets attacked if she drops her guard, not yours, you pooh-pooh-ers.
As for Flexichick, let them call you paranoid, uptight, hyper-vigilant or un-PC, but you got home safe. All that other static will only make you hesitate next time you're in that situation. Don't listen to them.
PS - I liked the recent story of the woman who took a picture of a flasher on the train with her cell. Could you have done that or would it have inflamed the situation? -
I love John Stossel, I really hope it wasn't him!
But seriously, glad you are ok. After reading your post, I had no doubt that you were right in this situation, nothing about it seemed like you were imagining anything. There are lots of freaks on the trains. My boyfriend doesn't like when I take the train alone at night, so if we meet up in the city, we take the subway to his house and he drives me home. I thought he was overreacting, but your situation made it all too real. -
brooklynpotter wrote: creepy creepy creepy, worse because they do that express train thing which forces us to a: get off at 7th and walk home alone late at night, or b: take train to church, not the safest place to be late at night, and wait for a train in the other direction. calling the car was a good call.
Do they let women in there now? I remember when...
when the F is running correctly and it's late, i usually get off on the 16th street stop, in front of farrell's... i know that if anyone's following me i can duck into there and tell any of the patrons and the guy will be mauled. gotta love the fireman/policeman bar. -
Your money was well spent. Your safety is not something you can afford to gamble with. I know at least four men who were mugged and, with the exception of one, they were not idiots. There are a lot of "smaller" crimes happening throughout the city that never make it into the headlines. Maybe the creepy guy was not following you and maybe he was -- at least you're here today to look back at the situation and wonder.
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brooklynpotter wrote: creepy creepy creepy, worse because they do that express train thing which forces us to a: get off at 7th and walk home alone late at night, or b: take train to church, not the safest place to be late at night, and wait for a train in the other direction. calling the car was a good call.
I was on that same damn train last night -- not stalking anyone, I swear. Although it stopped at my station, I thought about what a big pain in the butt the last minute notification of the express stops must be to other passengers in my car. Some were clearly surprised and it was late at night. That's not cool. We all know what the F Train stands for:
when the F is running correctly and it's late, i usually get off on the 16th street stop, in front of farrell's... i know that if anyone's following me i can duck into there and tell any of the patrons and the guy will be mauled. gotta love the fireman/policeman bar.
If you risk the F Train's "F"-ed up service, you're "F"-ed . -
I've been known to ride the train late at night or too early in the morning and I've also been stalked by a weirdo. Being the crazy chick that I am I just yelled at him very very loudly. plus I always carry a weapon when I know I'll be on the train at night.
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