This site is closed to new comments and posts.

Notice: This site uses cookies to function.
If you are not comfortable with cookies then please don't browse this website.

Roomie's Bouncing Checks — Brooklynian

Roomie's Bouncing Checks

whatchuwant
whatchuwant
edited November -1 in Crown Heights/Prospect Lefferts Gardens

Subject: Roomie's Bouncing Checks

So what do you do?
I had to deal with that recently. I won't tell you how I handled it till I get your opinions.
I feel awful though, cause he was/is a friend.
FYI- for your information, dude has a rep for not being "on top of things," and more importantly, this has made things shaky with MY finances. It is a delicate balance, yeah?

Comments

  • alafairnadia
    alafairnadia
    do NOT fuck with your own financial health. ever. no mercy.
  • oiseau
    oiseau
    Is he on the lease? If not, and he doesn't pay up, change the locks.
  • leffertsgirl
    leffertsgirl
    I agree with alafairnadia...you have to look out for you. I'm not into completely ruining relationships if you really are good friends, but if he is a good friend, he'll understand your need for cash or a new roommate.
  • sweet tea
    sweet tea
    business is business. if his check just bounced, you CANNOT accept another check the next day! CASH.

    then, with the CASH in your hand, you can be all "man, i hate it when my bank screws up", etc. but CASH.
  • pitu
    pitu
    ehhh, things happen.
    accept cash, and accept extra cash for whatever penalty the bank charged you.
    if you like living with him, work it out.
  • shishkab
    shishkab
    i agree with pitu. there were two times when my tenant bounced her rent check. as long as she paid the rent and penalty right away, i was cool about it because she was a good tenant.

    if this was a one-time deal with your roomie, and you like living with him, hopefully you can work something out.
  • whatchuwant
    whatchuwant
    He's a friend who is staying temporarily. He works in the movie biz and work is slow, so he sublet HIS place and is staying with me to save his money. He's not the perm. roomie (now HE'S great...).
    Yea, I haven't been too happy since he moved in. We gave him the big room so that he'd have his own space (with his cat, who I love). Instead of spending his time being generally scarce (kinda the thing you do when you're kinda a guest in someone's home), he proceeded to SIT ON THE COUCH (in the living room) WATCHING TV. Like, for HOURS at a time. I've never seen anything like it....
    Anyway, I'll tell you how I handled it tonight, along with a status report (if you're at all interested :)
    Thanks, everyone. I needed this.
  • shishkab
    shishkab
    ugh. well that puts a different spin on things, for sure. friend or not, now it sounds like he's being an inconsiderate deadbeat.

    i'd like to find out what happened. wait! lemme go pop some popcorn first, cuz this oughta be good....

    :wink::D
  • carnivore
    carnivore
    Work is slow..... :-k

    Is he planning on finding more work by sitting around and watching TV?

    If there's no movie work right now, surely there's a bartending or waitstaff position available somewhere.

    It's one thing if he has the money and it's some kind of error. But if he doesn't have it, he should get up off his ass and start looking for a job! I'm sure you didn't take him in planning to subsidize his tv-watching lifestyle.
  • whatchuwant
    whatchuwant
    He claims he DID have the funds (his subletters gave him a big ole check....out of state, hmmmm) and that it was the bank's fault, cause you know, that ALWAYS happens... :roll:
  • whatchuwant
    whatchuwant

    Subject: The Whole Story

    OK kids! Here's the story:
    I was doing my online banking stuff, and came across the bounce. Roomie was sleeping in his room. At first I thought I'd just talk to him when he woke up, but after letting things simmer for a while (alternating from complete disbelief, to anger, to hysterically laughing. Laughing cause I knew my other roomie was gonna have a few things to say...) ANYWAY!
    I decided to wake him- not an easy task. At first he tried to blow it off ("that's impossible, I'll write you another check, blah, blah, bullshitbullshitbullshit"). I just kept saying, "no dude, I need cash, like NOW, cause I put the rent check in and it's gonna cash ANY MINUTE. Bottom line: I'm not dealing with this, you are and I need cash by 8:20 tomorrow morning so I can run to the bank. You fucked up. I AM NOT DEALING WITH THIS."

    So he gets on the horn to the bank, and then comes to my room, stands in the doorway and talks to the bank, trying to get me involved. I actually CLOSED THE DOOR IN HIS FACE as he was trying to convince me that we could do an electronic transfer. (NOTE: I found out this can be done if you share the same bank as apparently we do. Never knew that...)

    The last thing I wanted to do was deal with that. Was not interested in doing the phone transfer thing, was not interested in helping him work things out, I JUST WANTED THE CASH.

    Now, you're probably thinking I'm a bitch- and I am to a certain extent. Fact is though, like I said before, this guy he's been a bum ever since he got here. Yeah, I've known him for ten years (party friend, mostly. Well, no, exclusively), but I wanted him to take responsibility for this. I was not interested in helping someone who didn't seem to be sorry in any way-not feeling the least bit responsible for having caused this, which leads me to......
    Why I'm Upset
    I'm upset because not ONCE during the whole evening of discussion and eventual outright arguing, he never ONCE apologized for having fucked up MY rent check, therefore possibly MY living situation. Fact is, is I've been late before, and the last thing I needed was to bounce this check. ESPECIALLY due to him and his shit. ARGH!

    He has not taken responsibility. He tells me that the money was in there- the bank fucked up. I don't really see how this is possible. I mean, in this day and age, it's pretty damn rare when the bank makes a fuck up like that, and when it comes to "insufficient funds,".....dude. No way. Whatever.

    The reason why I started this post was to get your opinions- he actually has a way of making me feel bad because I'm "not really being a friend."

    Him:"Do you really think I would do something like that to you?"

    Me:"Uh, yeah, man, maybe not before, but now??? Hell yeah, you kinda proved it."

    Him: "OK- I see how it is now..."

    Me: "Fuck you, douche."

    WON'T apologize....I know he didn't so it on purpose, but I want an apology for having disrupted my shit, ya know???

    So I told him he couldn't stay. Fact is, is even though he got the cash, my landlady hadn't cashed the check, and everything more or less worked out, I CANNOT live with someone who will take no responsibility whatsoever for this. Someone who doesn't in the least feel bad for having caused this situation to BE a situation. TAKE CARE OF YOUR FINANCES!

    Oh, yeah...best part?? He's 44!
  • anonymous
    anonymous
    sounds like you totally overreacted.
    sure he should have said sorry but I don't buy that that would have solved things between you.
    there is more to this than the check and the couch sitting.
  • carnivore
    carnivore
    Anonymous wrote: sounds like you totally overreacted.
    sure he should have said sorry but I don't buy that that would have solved things between you.
    there is more to this than the check and the couch sitting.
    I disagree. I think she handled it pretty well.
  • whatchuwant
    whatchuwant
    Anonymous wrote: sounds like you totally overreacted.
    sure he should have said sorry but I don't buy that that would have solved things between you.
    there is more to this than the check and the couch sitting.
    Yeah, there's more. He made the room stink like shit, as well.
  • alex
    alex
    Ha!
    Sounds exactly like a guy that I let sleep on my couch for a few months. Friend of a friend. Sorry sack of shit did nothing but sit around in his underwear, stink up the place, and eat salami sandwiches. Had to toss his ass out in to the cold world.
Sign In or Register to comment.

Howdy, Stranger!

It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!

Sign In

Categories