Where to meet girlfriends? i'm new here...

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"Um" 8thandPrez, that response seemed a little unnecessarily snarky. I don't think the OP's question was all that ridiculous. How many times have you had a stranger walk up to you at Prospect Park, or at BAM, and be all, "Hey, I'm new here, will you be my friend?" and you've said sure, let's be friends! I think it can be a little more difficult than that, especially for a young woman who doesn't know anyone.

Anyway, to answer the first question, I would recommend volunteering somewhere that does something you're interested in. You could start with NY Cares, just to get started. Another option is to take a class in something you like, because you're likely to meet others with similar interests. There are also a bunch of social event/outings for groups of strangers in NYC. I would just google it and you'll find some stuff. Good luck to you!

Subject: fpgirl

what are you interests?

Dear tryp: she has every reason to have to mention that she is straight. she is looking for a friend, not a lover. she wanted to make that clear. that' all. what is the problem with that? I totally understand this. Brooklyn can be a very lonely place.

I deleted my posts. I was feeling snarky and trying to be obnoxious funny. Bad idea. Sorry.

Hey I'm single!

alafairnadia wrote: [quote=King without a crown]Hey I'm single!

o'rly?

no, that's a different mr. bloom

this one is elvish

Here are some ideas:

If you're crafty, check out Etsy Labs -- It's not in P.S., but I think they have classes and craft nights and stuff where you could meet people. http://etsylabs.blogspot.com/

Plus, some of the bars in the area -- I think Black Sheep Pub and Gowanus Yacht Club in Carroll Gardens *which is probably closing for the season soon* -- have trivia nights. Maybe you could get on someone's team.

Hmmm... what else?

It might be too late in the season, but of you're the sportin' type, join up w/ one of the Kickball or Softball leagues that form in Prospect Park. Or you could head over to Union Hall and see if you can get in on some bocce games. That doesn't require much athletic skill, btw.

There are probably book clubs around...

Or maybe take a continuing ed class somewhere. Can be pricey, depending on where you do it, but it might be a good way to meet people, especially if it's something like a writing class where there's a lot of interaction. There are probably other class-type things in the 'hood you could do too -- writing, art, music, etc.

OK, that's all I've got. Good luck!

t

use the force

Weird as it may sound, church (or temple) is a great way to meet people simply because there's so much to do at one - committees and choirs and study groups and young adult groups - I've made a lot of friends at my church. And around here, the churches and synagogues are pretty liberal. They have to be.

Also check out the library (www.brooklynpubliclibrary.org) - they often have lots of things going on where you can meet people. The Botanic Garden offers classes. There's First Nights at the Brooklyn Museum as well.

You could also join the Food Co-op.

Subject: you know

I feel sometimes exactly the same way, though I have been in the neighborhood for years--there are so many people about my age and they look quite nice amd interesting, but it is for some reason quite hard to actually makes friends. I am pretty social and do not have problem being friendly, but still most of the encountring end up being just a small talk of the occasion. I know how you feel.

I agree. As you get older how do you say Want to be my friend without sounding I dunno weird. I have had convos and exchanged numbers or e-mails only to have it lead nowhere. Maybe you ladies would like to grab a drink so we can meet up and chat.

Would you be down with that?

Starting new friendships as an adult is like dating. It's saying "I'm interested in pursuing a relationship with you," and even though that relationship is friendly rather than romantic, it's still hard. It requires time and effort to get to know someone.

A good friend of mine used to live in the nabe, and we'd go out to brunch every Sunday. I really miss that. I love the DH happy hours, but I think it would be cool to do a brunch event to get that different vibe. Would anyone be up for it? I'll totally organize....

Quigley wrote: ... I would recommend volunteering somewhere that does something you're interested in. You could start with NY Cares....

Great idea Quigley. I made a lot of friends through New York Cares. Almost every project I took part in ended with a trip to a bar or restaurant. Try a couple of different projects to see which ones attract the kind of people you like. It does not hurt that you are doing good at the same time as making new friends.

sprite, thanks for your PM. I'm definitely interested.