Park Slopers without children need to be considerate too
Saturday night I was watching my nephew who just turned a year old. The people upstairs were having a party and were playing loud music, jumping around, running up and down the stairs, talking on their cell phones in the hallway and slamming doors. Several Taxis pulled up around midnight and were beeping their horns. Around 12:30 AM my nephew awoke after a loud series of loud thumps from the party. I went out into the hallway and asked if folks could lower the noise down because a baby was trying to sleep. I asked nicely. The neighbors didn’t know me but I am sure my brother in law has asked them to quiet down in the past. I was told, “Dude, we live here too” which meant “no.” The party and loud noise continued. When I left at 1AM, my nephew was still crying and there were several people out front on the front steps loudly talking on their cell phones.
What am I suppose to do, call the police?
I certainly have my fair share of Park Slope mom complaints, but now that I have a young nephew, I am really shocked by how inconsiderate SOME Park Slopers without children can be.
What am I suppose to do, call the police?
I certainly have my fair share of Park Slope mom complaints, but now that I have a young nephew, I am really shocked by how inconsiderate SOME Park Slopers without children can be.
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Um, it's not Park slope, it's people in general. This is not park slope specific. In fact I had better neighbors in PS than other places. Just call the cops next time.
Here is another vote to desensitizing your kids to noises. -
Mamacita:
Perhaps when your own child is crying or your young nephew or cousin is crying because of loud neighbors, you won’t be so dismissive in your views.
In general, I frown upon such dismissive views.
Your friend,
Apple -
they were probably hipsters
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What's the problem? I didn't tell your sister to get knocked up. Oohh, right...everyone around you should stop living their lives because your sister decided to spawn.
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Vidro,
I wasn't getting a hipster vibe, it was more of a "we are good people and have the right to have a pre-superbowl party vibe."
I don’t relate to such an attitude at all. This is kind of like when you are on a full subway car and see a super pregnant woman struggling to stand and no one will offer their seat to her. I am just left thinking, “I just don’t get it.” -
Hey, if they don't keep it down after midnight and you asked politely, then just call the cops. You did you're part, gave them a chance to be good neighbors, now let the cops deal with them.
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Something tells me someone's ovaries have dried up. It's either sad or pathetic, not sure which. Just because you can't have children, or have not been able to find anyone willing to put up with you long enough to procreate, does not give you the right to be inconsiderate, especially to a child.
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Anastasia,
I frown upon your style of communicating. My basic rule for discussing issues via the internet is that I try to only write things to others that I can hear myself saying in a conversation to someone. You would never speak to me or anyone else that way in real life and it is a shame you choose to do so via the internet.
I hope you reexamine your approach towards online communication.
Apple -
I'm taking bets on how far this thread will go. Grab you popcorn people. It another MONDAY on Brooklynian!
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apple pants wrote: Anastasia,
And you are much kinder and thoughtful than I in your reproach.
I frown upon your style of communicating. My basic rule for discussing issues via the internet is that I try to only write things to others that I can hear myself saying in a conversation to someone. You would never speak to me or anyone else that way in real life and it is a shame you choose to do so via the internet.
I hope you reexamine your approach towards online communication.
Apple -
RG - thanks for giving an overview of my reproductive system. How's that job hunt coming? Good thing the Prez hopes to extend unemployment benefits. Oh wait...you're still mad 'cause I pointed out that you're not as smart as you think you are...gotcha.
AP - If you knew me, you'd know I'd say exactly the same thing to your face. -
There are inconsiderate people around, whether or not they have children.
Lately, there seems to be so much judgement when someone posts and seems to just be bringing a situation forth that they want to share. They aren't necessarily complaining, just sharing their experience and of course if you post you do so to get feedback.
It is good advise to not insulate infants and young children from normal household, urban noise.
It is good advise to call the police if the "party" is disrupting your quiet enjoyment of your home and your neighbor's peace as well. -
I frown upon this thread.
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Veets,
I agree. I was basically looking to see how others have handled similar situations. -
Anastasia Beaverhausen wrote: What's the problem? I didn't tell your sister to get knocked up. Oohh, right...everyone around you should stop living their lives because your sister decided to spawn.
yeah, i don't believe he said everyone should stop living their lives because his sister had a kid, he just wanted some consideration.
And considering the time of night it was, he had every right to say something to them about the noise. Kid or no kid involved, if things are that noisy at 1 am, another tenant in the building has every right to complain. -
So call the cops. Not sure why it's such a huge "park slopers without kids are SOOO rude!!" thread. It was a weekend night. If it had been a week night, I'd be inclined to be a little more understanding. I live above a restaurant . I called 311 and filed a noise complaint for a party going on at 3 AM on a Sunday night. If it had been Friday or Saturday, I wouldn't have bothered. Do I think all people who own restaurants are rude and inconsiderate, no. And I don't post a whole thread insinuating the same.
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Wow, the hostility is hilarious.
Kids or no kids, having a roaring obnoxiously loud party past 11 or midnight when you live in the sort of group living situation that most of us do in Brooklyn is not only disrespectful but ridiculous. And Super Bowl or no Super Bowl, most of us like staying asleep and not being awoken by drunk 'tards.
It's not like Apple Pants asked anyone to stop cheering at 8 PM. It was midnight and they asked for the hall noise to be kept down. It's not New Year's Eve. What's so out of order to ask your neighbors to shut the hell up?
And Apple Pants, the other posters who have said this are right -- if your neighbors can't be bothered to be respectful enough to stop the racket after you've asked nicely, just straight up call the cops. And your super. And your landlord. -
The game ended at 11 or so and it was exciting. I'd tolerate another hour or so of partying, but at 1 am I would have told them to be quiet again and/or called the police, though I would feel awkward about doing that - it seems such a petty use of the police.
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Talking about parties: my experience growing up was if you are going to have a party 1) you let your neighbors know, hell invite them to stop by too.
2) give them your number so if they do have a complaint you can smooth it over before they call the cops.
That's my 2 cents. -
Mamacita wrote: Talking about parties: my experience growing up was if you are going to have a party 1) you let your neighbors know, hell invite them to stop by too.
Quoted for truth. This is the way it's supposed to go.
2) give them your number so if they do have a complaint you can smooth it over before they call the cops.
That's my 2 cents. -
Anastasia,
You wrote, "If you knew me, you'd know I'd say exactly the same thing to your face."
Then perhaps you should reexamine your approach to verbal communication as well.
Your friend,
Apple -
apple pants wrote: Anastasia,
What for? So I can be wishy washy and mealy mouthed like you? No thanks.
You wrote, "If you knew me, you'd know I'd say exactly the same thing to your face."
Then perhaps you should reexamine your approach to verbal communication as well.
Your friend,
Apple -
Anastasia Beaverhausen wrote: What for? So I can be wishy washy and mealy mouthed like you? No thanks.
LOL. Lame internet troll is lame. -
Hotbox wrote: [quote=Anastasia Beaverhausen]What for? So I can be wishy washy and mealy mouthed like you? No thanks.
LOL. Lame internet troll is lame.
You wasted bandwidth for this? Oh the horror.
It makes me a troll because I don't agree. Gotcha. -
Anastasia Beaverhausen wrote: So call the cops. Not sure why it's such a huge "park slopers without kids are SOOO rude!!" thread. It was a weekend night. If it had been a week night, I'd be inclined to be a little more understanding. I live above a restaurant . I called 311 and filed a noise complaint for a party going on at 3 AM on a Sunday night. If it had been Friday or Saturday, I wouldn't have bothered. Do I think all people who own restaurants are rude and inconsiderate, no. And I don't post a whole thread insinuating the same.
Yeah, i will agree with you there. no reason to have made the title "park slopers with no children', all people can be rude, it's not like they were rude just because they don't have kids. People can be rude with kids, without kids, love dogs, hate dogs, etc. etc.. -
Can I call the cops when my upstairs neighbors with three kids under ten come trampling down the stairs at 5:30-6:30 AM every morning waking me up?? It's pretty annoying.
People with or without kids can be annoying. Mostly with, in my opinion. And yes, they do live there too, but there are quiet hours, on non-weekend nights.
But i wish I could call about the neighbors who allow their kids to pound down the stairs first thing in the morning. It happens every day, not just like a once in awhile party, and they are inconsiderate to anyone who might be asleep!
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LongTimeSloper wrote: [quote=Anastasia Beaverhausen]So call the cops. Not sure why it's such a huge "park slopers without kids are SOOO rude!!" thread. It was a weekend night. If it had been a week night, I'd be inclined to be a little more understanding. I live above a restaurant . I called 311 and filed a noise complaint for a party going on at 3 AM on a Sunday night. If it had been Friday or Saturday, I wouldn't have bothered. Do I think all people who own restaurants are rude and inconsiderate, no. And I don't post a whole thread insinuating the same.
Yeah, i will agree with you there. no reason to have made the title "park slopers with no children', all people can be rude, it's not like they were rude just because they don't have kids. People can be rude with kids, without kids, love dogs, hate dogs, etc. etc..
She speaks the truth! Yeah LTS! -
Anastasia Beaverhausen wrote: You wasted bandwidth for this? Oh the horror.
No, it makes you a troll because you are intentionally being an ass. Don't front.
It makes me a troll because I don't agree. Gotcha.
I see more kids in Sunset Park (where I also live) than in the Slope any day, and I can tell you for sure that if I were to act like a spoiled frat boy in my building I would hear about it for sure.katieslope wrote: Can I call the cops when my upstairs neighbors with three kids under ten come trampling down the stairs at 5:30-6:30 AM every morning waking me up?? It's pretty annoying.
Why not go to the parents' apartment at a neutral time like the early evening and calmly explain that you don't have to be at work until later and you'd appreciate it if the hall noise could be a little lower in the morning?
People with or without kids can be annoying. Mostly with, in my opinion. And yes, they do live there too, but there are quiet hours, on non-weekend nights.
But i wish I could call about the neighbors who allow their kids to pound down the stairs first thing in the morning. It happens every day, not just like a once in awhile party, and they are inconsiderate to anyone who might be asleep! -
Hotbox wrote: [quote=Anastasia Beaverhausen]You wasted bandwidth for this? Oh the horror.
No, it makes you a troll because you are intentionally being an ass. Don't front.
It makes me a troll because I don't agree. Gotcha.
I see more kids in Sunset Park (where I also live) than in the Slope any day, and I can tell you for sure that if I were to act like a spoiled frat boy in my building I would hear about it for sure.katieslope wrote: Can I call the cops when my upstairs neighbors with three kids under ten come trampling down the stairs at 5:30-6:30 AM every morning waking me up?? It's pretty annoying.
Why not go to the parents' apartment at a neutral time like the early evening and calmly explain that you don't have to be at work until later and you'd appreciate it if the hall noise could be a little lower in the morning?
People with or without kids can be annoying. Mostly with, in my opinion. And yes, they do live there too, but there are quiet hours, on non-weekend nights.
But i wish I could call about the neighbors who allow their kids to pound down the stairs first thing in the morning. It happens every day, not just like a once in awhile party, and they are inconsiderate to anyone who might be asleep!
Dude, I like totally agree with you, cause that kid will need therapy after such gnarly treatment. -
LongTimeSloper,
That's a fair point. I guess it is the way the neighbors responded to me that lead me to title the post the way I did.
I asked the neighbors to quiet down for my nephew and they said, but we live here too. I should have just said, it is late and I need you to quiet down please. In all fairness to my title, I doubt very much that anyone with their own children or little cousins would have responded by saying, but we live here too.
Apple
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